The improvement in the quality and quantity of life has changed the pattern of grandparents intensely with which we were years ago. Although the birth of a grandson implies a great mobilization for its grandparents, it is no longer given in a land in which there is not anything or almost nothing else that to wait, but rather in most of the cases, they arrive to the life of beings that you/they are still very active, independent and with personal interests.
The grandsons arrive to the life of the grandparents when these in the middle of operation are, with multiple activities, for that that the relationship, the encounter spaces for both generations vary, and they are given in a very different way regarding which you/they were last century.
The appearance of maternal centers that you/they take charge of the children from so tiny and the lack of time free with which the grandparents counted, he/she has made that the quality of the relationship has varied. In most of the cases, they are not quines they take care exclusively of the grandsons, but those who share, in some situations, the upbringing. This has recreated in many cases the relationship, not being already mom's substitutes and dad, but rather they really appear in the life of the grandsons occupying the place of the grandparents.
Without any doubt in most of the cases, they continue being par excellence people in who more the parents trust the care of their children, as substitutes. They continue being for the parents a permanent source of support to which is appealed in front of the doubts, uncertainties about the education, be this way it stops then to criticize them or to remind them how much of that that now advise they didn't put it into practice when they educated them to them. They continue being many times “the recesses” affectionate for the boy, where he/she can eat things that he/she is not able to at home, to go to bed later or to have somebody dear that plays with him, it counts him stories and he/she gives him extra affection.
As in any human relationship, and neither that to speak of this so intense, it is natural that conflicts arise. For the parents who begin a new one on the way to responsibility, passing themselves to be parents, the necessity arises of being proven in its new function that is independent of the opinion of its own parents and putting into practice that that I eat children feels to have learned, either to repeat it or not. For the grandparents, the relationship with their grandsons much times it is lived as the possibility that the life offers them of liquidating bills, of repairing. This removes them the weight of the responsibility of being the main ones relating educational and it allows them to enjoy the children having the experience that you/they have given them the years. It is of waiting then that they are sometimes exceeded in their functions or in their critics.
The grandsons arrive to the life of the grandparents when these in the middle of operation are, with multiple activities, for that that the relationship, the encounter spaces for both generations vary, and they are given in a very different way regarding which you/they were last century.
The appearance of maternal centers that you/they take charge of the children from so tiny and the lack of time free with which the grandparents counted, he/she has made that the quality of the relationship has varied. In most of the cases, they are not quines they take care exclusively of the grandsons, but those who share, in some situations, the upbringing. This has recreated in many cases the relationship, not being already mom's substitutes and dad, but rather they really appear in the life of the grandsons occupying the place of the grandparents.
Without any doubt in most of the cases, they continue being par excellence people in who more the parents trust the care of their children, as substitutes. They continue being for the parents a permanent source of support to which is appealed in front of the doubts, uncertainties about the education, be this way it stops then to criticize them or to remind them how much of that that now advise they didn't put it into practice when they educated them to them. They continue being many times “the recesses” affectionate for the boy, where he/she can eat things that he/she is not able to at home, to go to bed later or to have somebody dear that plays with him, it counts him stories and he/she gives him extra affection.
As in any human relationship, and neither that to speak of this so intense, it is natural that conflicts arise. For the parents who begin a new one on the way to responsibility, passing themselves to be parents, the necessity arises of being proven in its new function that is independent of the opinion of its own parents and putting into practice that that I eat children feels to have learned, either to repeat it or not. For the grandparents, the relationship with their grandsons much times it is lived as the possibility that the life offers them of liquidating bills, of repairing. This removes them the weight of the responsibility of being the main ones relating educational and it allows them to enjoy the children having the experience that you/they have given them the years. It is of waiting then that they are sometimes exceeded in their functions or in their critics.
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