How to get lucky in marriage

If you want to ensure the happiness and marital harmony, place in each of the quarters in her home bags rather large (12x5 cm rectangles. For example) in white cloth and fill each with pine needles and a tablespoon of olive oil essence of cedar.

Another model, highly effective, is to fill these bags with leaves eucaplipto and add one tablespoon of essential oil of cypress. Dried lavender flowers are also effective.

Feelings that produces divorce

Having been confronted at the end of marriage, the next step that most people made is to focus and start again, alone, or with his new partner.

The fact find and put up a new home, learn to adapt to living in the new economic circumstances, to organize and standardize the visits to children and finding new interests and friendships, are in themselves important milestones on the road back toward normalcy. Next comes an important question: Now What?, As a first step to cope with the future. For some people divorced the future extends in front of them with little prospect of changes or improvements, even those who have initiated a new relationship are often victims of doubts and uncertainties particularly difficult to confess.

Feelings about the future are often quite contradictory. Although security stems from the continuation of planned and orderly domestic life is pleasant, in our imagination, at least, we want adventure, surprise and risk. Before, many people believed that only young people needed the dangers and adventure, hence that when she married, and especially to have children, establish an adult seriousness of which only had some limited possibility to escape the very rich and privileged. Here now our thoughts and experiences have evolved, and many people experience when they are unexpected changes in adulthood.

Although the anguish experienced at the end of a marriage by the ideas of rejection and betrayal seem unbearable at first, becoming more surprised the enormous resilience of the people, as well as its potential to take advantage of possible disasters and their struggle courageous to start over again. It is possible that the rejection, either at work or in marriage, to recognize and express aspects of oneself that had not been suspected before, or to whom they had not been given the opportunity to be developed.

The love after a separation

If the marriage has been eroding ido no conflicts or major violent discussions, we may continue to exist affection between the two occurs when the rupture.

A woman can confess to her husband for example, that although still wish to feel love with another. Those who are not locamente lovers can analyze it so much more balanced and more distance.

Such feelings often do not last and are a fragile basis on which to make decisions serious and potentially costly. Lawyers tend to be particularly cautious in these cases, and sometimes try to dissuade their customers telling them clearly that they can not afford to pay for a divorce. Such advice is usually ignored by those who are trapped in a network of strong emotions contrasted: the meaning of welfare, which is associated with the fact falling in love, and the sense of panic and indecision that the new relationship has brought.

The fact of falling in love tends to intensify the sense of one's own individuality. We affirm that our feelings are different and unique, and we must choose the consequences for ourselves.

Being in love has different meaning for each person. Some fall in love with regularity, noting his propensity with a certain distance and with humor; gives color to life and is a potential source of distress to disturbances, but should not be taken too seriously. Repos, on the other hand, a man or a woman who married the person who had been in love. When you look to the past, searching for a meaning to their lives, they realize that falling in love was a critical event that has since almost all molded his personality, has been the basis of their union, the first step toward fatherhood and origin of their most cherished memories.

Although the circumstances of his union have changed considerably, they can continue to say they are in love with their partner, even if they find it difficult to say how it demonstrates what it means. If they return to enjoy them will be much more difficult to weigh what this means and that should give the answer.

This feeling of powerlessness, of being incapable of doing anything other than respond to such sentiments, strong and rarely lived, is accentuated if decisions are made hastily.

The stories of falling in love coming out in magazines or on television programmes, is always associated with marriage, to start over, being the wedding day the first day of the rest of their lives. Those who marry a second time, rarely mark the beginning of his new life as a couple in this way.

Precocious Marriage

You should be considered as precocious marriage that that are made before the twenty years in the male, and before the eighteen in the woman.

The contracting futures and your parents should meditate seriously, consulting your case with oersonas specialized in these issues - psychologists, moralists and physicians, and also attorneys at law if legal aspects exist -, before deciding to take a step that can lead to an irreparable damage.

The precocious marriage outlines special problems of psychological nature, without, on the other hand, you possess special features from the point of view somatic although many physicians they consider that you exist a high incidence of aborts and eclampsia crisis in the gestating women of less than sixteen years. You are also considered, on the part of scientific agunos that the proportion of cancer of neck of uterine neck is higher in the women than they started the sexual relationships before the eighteen years.

The problems that the precocious marriage outlines derive of the immaturity emocinal of the husbands and of the inadequacy of the motivations that you/they have led to the marriage. Such an immaturity and such an inadequate motivation will lead to the divorce, or simplementa to the married onfidelidad. This is so certain that, according to a statistical data made by the Office of the Census of the United States, the number of divorces among the marriages in which the woman had less than twenty years, in the moment of the wedding, is three times general ledger that those in which the woman passed of the twenty-two.

Several they are the factors that contribute to the high incidence of the married infidelity in the precocious marriages. One of them resides in the inadequate couple election for impulsiveness, excessive romanticism and ignorance of the actual necessities of agreement with the own legal capacity and economic status. Another factor resides in the conflict that arise quickly among the obligations t responsibilities of the marriage and of the care of the children, on one hand, and the desire to participate in the dicersiones and type of life characteristic of the partners of both sexes that continue single, for another. You are also important the insecurity and restlessness that the man experiences because of your social and labor status, still without defining, especially when you are about students. In the cases in that the precocious marriage has been imposed more or less by a fortuitous pregnancy after one period prolonged of sexual relationships, the prognosis is even more unfavorable. In these marriages it always exists a hostility - fraud or declared - among the husbands, each one of which he/she make responsible to the other one of that happened and of the impositions that it have more than enough both they have fallen. Almost unanimously of experts, you are believed that you should be dissuaded the matrimoio motivated by the pregnancy in toto, n the cases in that the man and the woman don't want it genuinely and they go unavoidably to him due to the indeseada paternity. Although for the moment it can seem the best solution to leave the step, espreferible to confront the reality that to carry out a disastrous marriage, as much for the contracting parties as for the future children. Also, marriage's type is not "free."

In other occasions, the precocious actual marriage against the commission of the adults can be an expression of contempt of court before the society on the part of individuals with features psicopáticos and, therefore, specially immature for the marriage. Also, in many cases, the precocious marriage constitutes an escape of the paternal homestead of young inadaptados that you/they only want linerarse of the family tutelage and to be created, although you are artificially, an appearance of autonomy and social freedom. The prognosis of such marriages is easy to preview.

What name do they have the Anniversaries of Wedding?

The names that are allocated to each marriage anniversary, vary according to the different cultures and traditions. However, the most accepted and generals are the following ones:

1 year. cotton weddings

2 years. paper weddings

3 years. leather weddings
4 years. weddings of wax
5 years. wooden weddings
6 years. weddings of sugar
7 years. wool weddings
8 years. fitting weddings
9 years. weddings of mud
10 years. tin weddings
11 years. steel weddings
12 years. silk weddings
13 years. weddings of moss
14 years. ivory weddings
15 years. porcelain weddings
16 years. sapphire weddings
17 years. rosa weddings
18 years. weddings of turquoise
19 years. cretonne weddings
20 years. glass weddings
21 years. opal weddings
22 years. brass weddings
23 years. beryllium weddings
24 years. satin weddings
25 years. silver weddings
26 years. jade weddings
27 years. acayú weddings
28 years. nickel weddings
29 years. velvet weddings
30 years. pearl weddings
31 years. skin weddings
32 years. copper weddings
33 years. porfirio weddings
34 years. amber weddings
35 years. coral weddings
36 years. muslin weddings
37 years. iron weddings
38 years. weddings of mercury
39 years. crepé weddings
40 years. emerald weddings
41 years. iron weddings
42 years. pearl-shell weddings
43 years. flannel weddings
44 years. topaz weddings
45 years. cinnabar weddings
46 years. lavender weddings
47 years. Kashmir weddings
48 years. amethyst weddings
49 years. cedar weddings
50 years. weddings of gold
55 years. weddings of orchids
60 years. diamond weddings
65 years. rosewood weddings
70 years. platinum weddings
75 years. alabaster weddings
80 years. oak weddings

Infidelity in the Couple

The fidelity is the deepest problem in the couple's life that is based mostly on the rejection to the change of having a stable couple, where in fact the rules or limitations are to be with that single person, stiller in the marriage, until the death separates them. The fidelity is something eternal that infiltrates in the being, and as long as it is an adarme of eternity, it is negation of the change, of the impermanence of the life.

Let us see this problem in the concrete matrimonial status: two beings unite in a certain moment of their life. The love, the longing of the one for the other one, the arrival of the children, these and other loops are destined to perpetuate the union. But, on the other hand, the life advances. That so intimate coexistence that it demands the matrimonial life it is never easy. Petty incomprehensions begin to separate the two beings. The love-passion of the beginning extinguishes little by little. The sexual instinct is stumped in the fog of the habit and it loses pressure, it forces and vigor. In this status a third person arises in his life, or in that of her, and the half sleeping desire wakes up appearing the infidelity. Then, when we are outlined a conflict of this nature it seems that the decisive factor has been "the third person" that he/she has appeared in the scenario. The status is similar to that of the neurotic conflicts. The trauma that happens in a certain moment of the life seems to engender the neurosis. The truth is that the neurosis was there and in latent state, and that the trauma has not made more than to crystallize it.

The status in the life are disparate and you grieve it is possible to find a common denominator for all them. If we wanted to search one, that it would be the boredom. The relationships between tedium and fidelity are very deep and they need to be clarified. The lived time doesn't have the same structure that the physical time, which is an anonymous time, equal for all. On the other hand, the lived time is different for each being. A moment of a personal life contains in its intimate structure to everything her. The personal time advances, not evenly as the physique, but discontinuously, each moment is richer than the previous one because the past enriches it. This way, the moments of each life are different to each other. The hope of the future maintains them upright. The sense of the life gets lost when the personal time demeans and he/she approaches, in its structure, at the biologic time.

The problems then that seemed only sexual, they have a deviation, behind all them other problems exist, as the anguish, the boredom, the tedium, the routine, the non planning, among other. Only he/she wakes up all this, when seeing that it exists other somebody that can "cover" that that no longer exists inside the relationship.

For that reason, it is advisable in the appearance of the first symptoms, and being attentive, to converge to couple therapy or psychological treatments to be able to bear the subject and to take out the couple ahead.