How to express the bad feelings

At the present time, the psychology coincides in that the calls "bad feelings" are not another thing that the necessary and healthy expression of our dissatisfaction, and not something of what we must feel guilty or to be embarrassed. They are part of the emotional necessary hygiene.

However, this doesn't mean that we should make of the bad feelings an emotional chronic style. Anyway, you are such the repair of many people toward those "bad feelings" that often it happens to us desapercibida the comprehensive range that you exist as for them.

The anger, the bitterness, the anger, the rage, the anger, the fear, the jealousies, the spite, the offense, the deception, the failure, the interior conflict, the aggression, the hole or the resentment; they are some of the "bad so many more habitual feelings" in the current society.

So that all they come out out, we offer you a series of exercises in steps.

1- You accept that in some occasions you have bad feelings.
2- You recognize that you feel the necessity to express them.
3- You think that the bad feelings are so yours as the good ones.
4- I know conciente of the bad feelings expressed by people of your environment and, of being possible, note them in a paper.
5- You separate those that you consider that they were expressed in a respectful way, of those that were not it.
6- You also score, the advantages that it suppose to express them correctly.
7- Make a list, you either cut or long, of those bad feelings that you have experienced lately.
8- You take you note of how you expressed them or, of those that you have swallowed yourself and how you have felt according to ésto.
9- Rescríbelos, heading the note with you formulate it: "When so-and-so told me or you made such a thing... I felt this way (pointing out your feelings)."
10- You imagine that are again in each one of those status, reformulando your expression this way: "When you behave this way with me, I sit down this way (you express the bad feeling again)." This way, you will cheer up to say it in new status, in a direct way and without feeling blame!

You remember, the biggest obstacle is the fear to the possible consequences after having expressed "difficult" words. But not to make it can in the worst in the cases, to generate psychosomatic illnesses. Hence, you are more what we win that what we lose.

Who cheer up to express your bad feelings, paradoxically, every time they have more love to share.