Showing posts with label children. Show all posts
Showing posts with label children. Show all posts

2/03/2009

How to invoke the guardian angel of their children

The angels never denied the protection of children. Always listen to those seeking his help to benefit their favorite. Write down the problems that your child (if over do it in a separate paper), place the child's name at the top of the sheet. Light a candle and blessed the double role so that the name is on the inside.

Then say the following sentence:
Angel protector of (name of child) to help me find the root of this problem (the problem child's name). Ilumíname and give me strength to find the solution. Assistance to (name) so you can overcome it without suffering.

Make a summary of the experiences he had with his son. At the end let you come to the possible causes of children's issues, and what, in their view, the solutions and write them on paper under his name.

Next, place the paper in an envelope, close it well and escóndalo somewhere in the fourth of their children.

The mystery of sexuality in children

The repeated sexual play in children are sometimes an attempt to experience for themselves something that intrigues and not fully understood. If you are born an effort to speak clearly and listen to your concerns, we will remove much mystery to the subject of sex and help you focus with a healthy attitude.

The fact that we ourselves who naturally report provides the reassuring, and also allows us to guide them. Careful, though, not to invade your privacy or our exhibit.

Why children steal? Meaning of behavior

Some kids do not distinguish between proprietary and foreign, and sometimes take "on loan" which does not belong to them. How should we interpret their behavior?

Experts in child psychology say that kids do not know what a "robbery" after seven or eight years old. Until then, it will clearly distinguish what is theirs and what is not. Many guys are surprised at some time, returning from school subject that does not belong to them (a pencil, some crayons, a ball) or taking a couple of coins portfolio mom. If this is an isolated incident and most of all they are, the experts recommend not dramatize the situation.

Everything is all. Many kids think that in a family are all things of all. Like not asking permission to eat a cookie, it does not believe it necessary to ask to open the purses of their parents. In these cases, one-time action can eliminate the misunderstanding. To better understand the concept of "ownership", parents can give a small weekly fee (5 pesos, for example) that might have himself.

In parallel, they should clarify that there are things that are not theirs, and just as they do not open your piggy bank without its consent, it must respect the belongings of others.
This explanation is also valid when the take over of small objects that are of other kids, in which case, you will have to return the stolen. A wake-up call.
This is not the little things that appropriates outside regularly commit thefts or in public. These events are a warning sign that should never be ignored. With his attitude, the child can be demanding more attention and affection.

COUNCIL
The boys who steal to buy the friendship of others with gifts reflect a lack of confidence in themselves. To overcome it, may require the help of a psychologist.

How to prevent gases in children

The emission of gases through the mouth or anus due to an excessive accumulation of air in the digestive tract. The origin may be in some bad eating habits that cause unconscious swallowing of air or poor digestion.

This is common in children who eat a hurry, eating disorder and "pecking" often between meals, which some ill-digested vegetables like cabbage, cauliflower or cabbage, or consuming too many sodas.

In cases where sales were accompanied by other symptoms (upset stomach or pain, diarrhea, constipation) should be carrying the boy to the pediatrician as soon as possible to make a more accurate diagnosis and appropriate treatment applied to the case.

The best age to have a child

The current trend is to have fewer children and later. But in a responsible and mature. The parents of today, especially, want to enjoy this experience to the fullest.

A wanted child is a happy child. "This is the. Most important conclusion of the experts who advise this report. Much more essential that the age is the desire to be parents and security to be prepared for it.

Emotional stability, professional and economic security can be good for their welfare. Undoubtedly, 20, 30 or 40 can be found advantages and disadvantages, in terms of physical and psychological.

We will tell their players, very young mothers and others who have postponed motherhood until they felt safe or until you have had the chance. But all are agreed on one point: having a child has been the most rewarding experience of their lives.

"The combination of fitness and maturity is perfect"
"If you could choose the ideal age for having a child is 30 to 35 years, some European experts say." Women enjoy good health and mental maturity, which is also very important. But, but may be, do not worry. If the woman is healthy, no medical contraindication to have later "after 35 years increases the risk of Down syndrome (risk of deterioration is 1 per 270 pregnancies ).
The gynecologist who is often recommended adequate prenatal diagnostic test, according to the characteristics and family history of pregnancy and their partners. It is essential that these techniques, amniocentesis, amniofiltración, chorion biopsy, in situ hybridization,-funiculocentesis be practiced by specialists, have a minimum risk of abortion "

1/29/2009

What are the fears of children

Between 0 and 12 years, all children may be confronted with certain fears, which correspond to specific stages of development. They leave as the kids learn to take care of their emotions. These are the most common fears of children.
• From birth. Loud noises.
• From 7 months. Unknown faces.
• Around the year. The departure of their parents neglect.
• At 2 years. Darkness
• From 3 years. The more expensive and people disguised.
• A ios 5 years. The sight of blood and injections.
• About 6 years. The ghosts and supernatural beings.
• Between 7 and 8 years. The projected by television images are printed with strength in its spirit.
• Between 8 and 12 years. Death, natural disasters and wounds.

12/04/2008

As to educate teens

Children's education does not respond to magic, but some details of which can greatly improve our relationship with them. Here are some suggestions:

• Try to provide a space for himself only able to be alone when they need it.

• Do not listen to their telephone talks breaking into his room without hitting the door
before entering.

• If you receive mail, collect magazines or buy CDs from their favorite rock groups, agree that there is a place where they can save them and where they have access only.

• Establish a monthly managed in a responsible manner by the kids.

• Limit properly regulating expenses deemed unnecessary or superfluous, and agreeing with them how far they can ask and how far they should not require.

• If you ever return to some drunken party, will have to wait the appropriate time to talk and clarify the risks involved in this type of situation.

• Do not allow the indiscriminate use of alcoholic beverages at meetings in their homes.
Often, the "wall of silence" can be felled with clear guidelines and rules of coexistence that form part of the daily routine of all families.

That way, parents will be more relaxed and adolescents will gradually assume in the future some of the most demanding aspects of adulthood. And dispense so, little by little, the protective aid that took along their lost-and-why not missed childhood.

11/27/2008

Jealousy between siblings - How to avoid them?

Not just for the dethroned prince is disconcerting to the new situation, it is also true for Mom and Dad. Move from three to be four is not only a question of quantity: the folks will have to go understanding that the arrival of another child not only alters routines and spaces, but he brings a variety of needs and desires to be compatible with the of the family and with those of the firstborn.

Restructure affective spaces within each parent will allow the first and second child find what is their place inside and outside the family. Give everyone what you need at the right time, understand what happens, be able to translate their desires, their fears and fantasies decoding is one of the most complex tasks of the job of parents. Able to offer everyone the right thing is a learning that the children are asking us to do on an ongoing basis.

11/13/2008

Alterations of development

One of the things that most concerns parents is that their son walk with their feet inward or outward. The former is much more prevalent than the latter and is related to a provision of the hip different (forward), but absolutely normal, forcing the child to rotate the feet when walking. Generally, the hip is well positioned to puberty, and then corrects the child spontaneously how to tread.

Walk with your feet toward the outside is often a symptom of change in the hip, and to remedy the problem is first necessary to tackle the cause. This disorder is usually far less than the previous one. It is normal that the child turn a bit when your feet start to walk. As yet has no integrated system of balance in the brain, is looking for a way of stepping on to provide him with security. Do not worry: the solution comes with time.

The record of visits to the trauma it has the flatfoot. Now the parents consult more, and that's fine, but they often worry about things that are fixed as the child grows. Sometimes taking babies for four months because they have no bridge, where the norm is just that, the arch is filled with fat.

In fact, unless the disorder exists at birth, or if the small has a hip problem, do not worry until the child has not completed three years, when the foot is beginning to acquire its final structure . In the view of many specialists, there is a tendency to prescribe templates to correct defects, such as flat feet are normal until the foot has not been developed.

More important is to use templates to wear proper footwear. The parents claimed. They prefer that their children will indicate the use of templates to tell them that they should not do anything because the children, for the moment, have a normal foot. Stay more relaxed. What needs to change is the philosophy of footwear. Not everything on the market is right and the first task of parents is to learn to choose well.

10/07/2008

¿Imitation or inheritance?

The child learns through imitation, and this process begins from the moment of birth. In some babies, with only six hours of life, if they are taken out the tongue are also capable of doing. Many researchers argue that this ability to imitate is simply a reflex action, but others believe that it is precisely these babies then are excellent imitators.

What is certain is that all parents become mad with joy when her baby and mimics the reply to its ñoñerías with smiles and chirp. The adults then take exaggerated attitudes, coupled with short sentences and exaggerated gestures, and the small learns to decode this sign language, voice inflections, the repeated phrases: it is their first language.

In each family, in addition, there are microcode individuals. Every mother and father have his way of outwardly peculiar affection for his son, his way of approaching it and communicate.

Genetics of the children

A certain air of family
The child inherits about 50 percent of the genetic heritage of their parents. Most of the biological characteristics, height, eye color and hair, the shape of hands, longevity, disease resistance, ..., are broadcast in hereditary form.

Often, these characters are controlled by many genes. This explains the range of colors that can present their eyes, the diversity of stature, the various skin tones, the almost infinite variety of hair color, and so on.

Some qualities are transmitted with predominance: black or dark hair is imposed on the clear, blond or reddish; hair curled due to Lazio; dark skin tone prevails over the white, the eyes of prevails over round ... It is also the dominant presence of the pits on the cheeks or the chin.

In the shape of your head, rounded or oval, usually a clear distinctive family, influence such other factors as the position of the baby in the womb during pregnancy. The stature upward. In the event that both parents are high, their descendants, to be sure, it will be even more.

There is a 50 percent chance of transmitting the sons baldness, and being hairy, especially in hands and fingers, dominates the absence of hair.

In their eyes, the color blue brings everything to lose. For example, if the genes of the mother have the quality to pass the blue color of the eyes, and the father, the brown color, all children will have brown eyes (a dominant gene).

10/06/2008

The modesty of children

For the kids, nudity is something natural. At first they produce pleasure and means of freeing the poop and pee. Run and swim naked in a group offers no difficulty: the infant body is shown without any obstacle.

But as his psyche evolves, the child is "taking over" out of your body is a sexual body and is acquiring a "know" about sexuality. To this is added to know the social learning. Does not lack for parents to teach it. The mere existence shows that people do not walk naked down the street, so it must be dealt with something private and intimate.

Even liberal parents, whose behavior towards the desmudez is totally natural, they will see with astonishment that some day your son or your daughter shut the door of the room bathroom or unwilling to strip naked on the beach.

Of course, we must respect this new modesty, although it may seem exaggerated. It is as if the first child will need a good understanding of the basic rule: "Being naked in front of strangers is taboo," before they can accept exceptions. A few years later and you'll see the nakedness with less shame, until at puberty experience a second phase of modesty.

All parents must follow the rules of modest setting their children, so they will see that your body belongs to them alone and that nobody can look at or touch it without your consent.

10/02/2008

Your son fights with other children?

About five years, sometimes sooner, some guys show great aggressiveness toward the other small. This creates many problems for their parents, since they must cope with constant complaints, but is especially dangerous for those guys, who tend to stay isolated when I want most is affection.

Reflecting on the subject.
Parents should ask themselves if they will not be a bit "loose hand" (in these things usually spread by example). It also might tell them all the time: "As you keep bothering me give a steak," and thus give ideas to his son.

How to act
Every time a kid will stick to its peers, we must remove the group firmly, but without violence and with complete peace of mind. We will have to also say: "As you know not to play with your friends, you will have to play alone. You'll return when control you know." Once that calms down we will understand, with good profiles, which can not get angry at every turn, much less hitting.

The child of this age is very influential and is looking really nice and make friends. If he says that can not be contained or repeat, we are not discouraged. We must show our confidence that you learn to control and thus more fun and have friends. Praise helps.

As important or more that this is to recognize their progress. "Today we played very well," 'Look how well you spend now and how you want the other kids. " It is good to commend you for being friendly and chatty, and explain its advantages. Barely emerging from his self-centeredness, and sometimes has trouble adapting to the rules of the game shared.

What to do if a child steals?

What can we do?
Even if the boy has acted several times so it's best not to dramatize, but it does follow some advice, since this is a good age to see with clarity the child, take seriously their problems and remedy them in time:

• Let repair the damage by returning stolen it if possible. Expliquémosle that whenever steals, someone comes out injured.

• Let us closer to him and improve the relationship, this is especially important for the father of the same sex.

• Enseñémosle to think before acting and controlled.

• try to increase their self-esteem and to revalue its confidence in itself.

• find activities that they do feel satisfied.

• Let us give some responsibilities, which shows our confidence in him.

• The punishment did not take any effect, the important thing is to find the cause of the problem.

• If, despite everything, the boy returns to steal more than once, no doubt in consultation with a psychologist who will help us to address and resolve the problem.

What to cope with a seizure in a child

It is said that in such cases, we have to open the mouth of the person concerned, but doctors suggest that it is not indispensable, although there is some risk that will bite the tongue. This will then be very annoying and even painful, but poses no danger.

Nor should we hold the child or talk to calm down. It is advisable to ensure that no damage in other parts of the body, and maintain calm. It is important to note if you have fever or if it does piss.

When seizures have stopped, it is consulting with the pediatrician. If you are prolonged or repeated too many times in a row, we need him to the hospital or emergency alert.

9/29/2008

Help your child to be generous

• Try not to force your child to share if he does not want.

• Try each of your children have something that is exclusively theirs.

• It requires the child to respect the private belongings of others, differentiating between what is and what it is all individual.

• Help him recover the objects he has given to others. If each loan means lost forever, it will lose the desire to be generous.

• Try to understand the motivations of his friends.

• Perhaps, someone asks about that car because he does not have any, or no one wants to leave his teddy bear because you need to sleep.

• Do not expect your child knows share before completing four years.

How to educate their children?

Educating girls ... educating boys
Do the girls should be like "the Susanita" Quino who dreams of marriage, children and soap operas? Will the babies be strong, tough and successful as a gallant fashion in movies or TV? Should boys be just tender and demonstrative? Will babies be the only strong and bold?

The current education seem to suggest that each one can prove who he is and what it is. The idea that it is at this point has to do with everyone, male or female, can develop all aspects of his personality.
Is it appropriate for a boy to play with a baby doll or a ball?

Answer these questions involves how to respond "to achieve a proper sexual identification of the children." That is, that boys are boys and girls girls. No part of the overstatement, of the almost caricature of what is traditionally said to be men and women, which ensures a sexual identification.

To ensure this identification is not going to allow certain games and prohibit others. Obviously things are more subtle and profound that the move to the definitions of sex.

The dreams with weddings and babies do not seem to ensure a comprehensive and correct identification with the feminine. Sports and rude expressions of force nor assured in men. Endless preconceptions of this kind has guided education and has not solved anything.

It is clear that being male or being a woman things are more complex than the caricatures of male and female. When it comes to educating, the son and daughter received a message that transcends caricature. This message that parents are giving emit the total identity of the child. At the time of educating will have to do so without fear, responsibly. Without forgetting that fear is the worst legacy we can give to our children.

9/25/2008

Burns in children and INSOL

A full sun
The skin of children is very sensitive to the sun's rays. So in summer and on the beach, there is nothing better than an umbrella and T-shirt. In addition we must apply every two hours, a sunscreen product with high-protection factor of 6 to 8, children over two years, and 12 to 15, for the babies.

Sunburn: always happen by overexposure to the sun. Cause skin rashes, itching and pain. Faced with a slight burn, the first thing you should do is to cool the damaged skin with a soft sponge or cold compresses, and then applying a special moisturizing lotion to alleviate the effects of the sun, in other words, after a sun. Never fat creams or oils.

The most serious burns acquire a red-violet, produce blisters, pain and fever. If the child is big, you can apply an ointment specifically for sunburn and let it heal on the air. When the boy is small, it should go to the doctor. Should drink plenty of fluids to rehydrate the skin.

Insolaciones: Heat stroke is more serious than the burn. Is also produced by passing too many hours in the sun without protection. Your symptoms may include: skin red, dry, hot, or pallor, exhaustion, cold sweat and headaches, dizziness, vomiting ... In this case we must act immediately transferred to the child in the shade, a cool, airy and loose clothing.

If you are pale, we have to put your head lower than his feet, and if it is red, put it in elevated position on a cushion. Fan and applied wet towels for the temperature to fall. At the same time, offer liquids: no ice-cold water with salt, lemon and sugar. It should alert the doctor.

Heat exhaustion: It is different from heatstroke or burn, but so has the sun. Its symptoms include redness of the skin, which in turn is humid and very hot, fever, headache, stunning and, sometimes, dizziness and delirium.

When introduced, and while the doctor comes, the most urgent task is to lower body temperature, submerging the child in warm water and then wrapping it in a blanket or wet towel until the fever down.

9/04/2008

How to avoid hitting a child

1 - The first formula (and nothing for children) is to count up to ten at a time of maximum irritation.

2 - Think first if we did not come home with excessive fatigue, stress and nerves work.

3 - Our children are not to blame for our problems, it is logical that we raise theirs.

4 - Do not start a dialectic of screams, always strive to raise their voices unless it. Normally, families carried out otherwise.

5 - If the child develop an attack of nerves, is much more coherent resituar the situation after obliged to sit in a place far removed from our sight.

6 - Ask to explain why his rabieta and analyze it point by point.

7 - Strive to be responsible for the situation created.

8 - Trying to prioritize punishment and not determined according to the mood in which we find ourselves.

9 - Be consistent: we can not lift a punishment when we passed his anger and return to be irritable moments later.

How to educate children

The family situations that the child does not capture as a whole - the couple of problems and difficulties at work - are the most impact on this particular patoloqía in which neither parents nor children are responsible guilty of possible clashes, tensions and misunderstandings. Not all children are born to difficult situations but most are a result of unexplained problems.

It does not mean that parents should blame, that road does not lead to a solution. You can even give different situations between brothers face the same problem. Parents, absorbed by their problems, they can forget or react aggressively to those of ios children.

The child picks that is not heard and seeks be noted, not always at home. Many parents learn that their children have felt a difficult family situation when they arrive worrying reports from school. Trying to understand is the first step to finding out the positive.