Feelings that produces divorce

Having been confronted at the end of marriage, the next step that most people made is to focus and start again, alone, or with his new partner.

The fact find and put up a new home, learn to adapt to living in the new economic circumstances, to organize and standardize the visits to children and finding new interests and friendships, are in themselves important milestones on the road back toward normalcy. Next comes an important question: Now What?, As a first step to cope with the future. For some people divorced the future extends in front of them with little prospect of changes or improvements, even those who have initiated a new relationship are often victims of doubts and uncertainties particularly difficult to confess.

Feelings about the future are often quite contradictory. Although security stems from the continuation of planned and orderly domestic life is pleasant, in our imagination, at least, we want adventure, surprise and risk. Before, many people believed that only young people needed the dangers and adventure, hence that when she married, and especially to have children, establish an adult seriousness of which only had some limited possibility to escape the very rich and privileged. Here now our thoughts and experiences have evolved, and many people experience when they are unexpected changes in adulthood.

Although the anguish experienced at the end of a marriage by the ideas of rejection and betrayal seem unbearable at first, becoming more surprised the enormous resilience of the people, as well as its potential to take advantage of possible disasters and their struggle courageous to start over again. It is possible that the rejection, either at work or in marriage, to recognize and express aspects of oneself that had not been suspected before, or to whom they had not been given the opportunity to be developed.