Showing posts with label shame. Show all posts
Showing posts with label shame. Show all posts

10/06/2008

The modesty of children

For the kids, nudity is something natural. At first they produce pleasure and means of freeing the poop and pee. Run and swim naked in a group offers no difficulty: the infant body is shown without any obstacle.

But as his psyche evolves, the child is "taking over" out of your body is a sexual body and is acquiring a "know" about sexuality. To this is added to know the social learning. Does not lack for parents to teach it. The mere existence shows that people do not walk naked down the street, so it must be dealt with something private and intimate.

Even liberal parents, whose behavior towards the desmudez is totally natural, they will see with astonishment that some day your son or your daughter shut the door of the room bathroom or unwilling to strip naked on the beach.

Of course, we must respect this new modesty, although it may seem exaggerated. It is as if the first child will need a good understanding of the basic rule: "Being naked in front of strangers is taboo," before they can accept exceptions. A few years later and you'll see the nakedness with less shame, until at puberty experience a second phase of modesty.

All parents must follow the rules of modest setting their children, so they will see that your body belongs to them alone and that nobody can look at or touch it without your consent.

7/31/2008

Why children are ashamed?

The feeling of modesty wakes up in the boys about five years. Suddenly, are ashamed of their own nakedness and do not want to be seen without clothes. not even by their parents or siblings.

This is a normal phase, which means that it has reached a certain level of evolution: it is now recognized himself as a person separate and distinct from the others and can imagine how they see the others.

In addition, feels his own body and wants to decide who may look or touch. During, we must respect his modesty, not to mock him or force him to appear naked against his will.
Usually something passenger, forwards after a few years and reappears at puberty.