Tips for grandparents

• They must accept that there are responsibilities that fall to parents.

• It is very important to know to maintain a tolerant and sympathetic.

• Talk to the grandchildren when their parents were small and telling stories of them.

• Admitting that they are not infallible and that their experience is not necessarily to serve others.

• As parents are often busy, grandparents must facilitate family reunions and celebrations on the anniversaries.

• Prevent dropouts and long distance so far.

• Always have to respect the views and approach of the children, although they differ from yours.

• And should not speak ill of the grandchildren of his parents, trying to maintain a positive image of them.

Gerontofilia - sex with old men

Inside the abnormalities of the sexual behavior regarding the age, they fit those in the one that the chronological abnormality doesn't relapse in the fellow in issue, but in the objective that search like half of arriving to the sexual satisfaction. These objectives escape to the normal age to correspond to a sexual adjusted behavior, already for your little age, or for your excessive age. In the first case, you are about the pedofilia, and in the second, of the gerontofilia. These terms proceed etimológicamente of the Greek and they mean, translated literally, "love to the children" and "love to the old men."

Then gerontofilia means "love to the old men" and you consist on the obtaining of the sexual satisfaction by means of erotic relationships with old men or old men. Also in the gerontófilo a serious complex of inferiority exists, being estaa very similar abnormality to the pedofilia, only here the aesthetic motivation is supplied by a dependence motivation and of protection search. The gerontofilia sometimes rests in a necessity of feeling higher in the erotic relationships that the individuals enter with serious complexes of inferiority. The gerontofilia is sometimes due to the irreducible uptake in a parental (the father, the mother) image or to an impossibility of liquidating the affective-erotic complexes of the childhood.

For a similar motivation, although in another scale it is given currently in the youths a certain inclination for the mature man, with some white hair inclusive ("the interesting" man), and in the boy, a similar attraction for the mature ("the interesting" woman) woman. Due to it, and among other lawsuits, are comprehensible the marriages with great frequency in girls that have lost your father in the childhood or that they suffer of your father a patent rejection. The unique children have kind of an exaggerated sentimentality for people of considerable age and very rarely they are flanked of children. They are precocious and they feel old.

The cases of uptake in the adult of the parental image from your childhood are very clear equally in the boy. You are always about the mother, of some bigger sister or of an aunt. Sometimes, the uptake and you carry out on the grandparents. This way, some authors affirm that the children educated by the grandparents have a certain inclination to the gerontofilia. In occasions it has contributed to that uptake the fact that the grandparents have ended up "playing" sexually with the grandsons. At least you are very communio the practice of the bed (to sleep rn the same bed) of the children with your grandparents.

You contribute to that conflicting uptake the one that the parents are often very severe and frustrate the boy excessively. On the other hand, the grandparents are gratifying and they spoil your grandsons.

All the sexual nomalías that refer to the sexual paradox can only be corrected by means of psychological and psychiatric treatments, you be unless of some case of sexual precocity caused by a hormonal problem, since then it is necessary to go to the endocrinólogo. You are also very important the social consideration of these problems in the concerning thing to the prevention of the infantile prostitution and a sexual normal education capable of canalñizar on time, from the first steps, the human sexuality.

Old-age - The Third Age

The maximum duration of the life in the mammalias is on or about the sextuple of the period of increment, that which mean in the man 120 years, since anatomically it is given had concluded the increment with the welding of the epíficis of the long bones of the extremities, fact that happen in the the 20 year-old man alredeor. But this is only the theoretical form of defining the maturity. The man generally dies for cancer or other illnesses.

All ésto takes to that different authors have your respective conclusions about the determination of the period of the old-age, but in all ways it is patent that you are not convenient to be axiomatic in this issue. The involución sometimes begins to ages very different, even for individuals subject to the same conditions of life, emotions, power supply, work, etc.
You have also been observed that in many families there is a predisposition to age prematurely and in other, on the contrary, the fenómenoss involutivos makes your appearance belatedly and they reach very advance ages.

They influence in the beginning of the old-age, apart from the incidence in the individual of certain pathologic processes, the interpretation that each person gives to the ageing, as well as the image that subjectively have of the ancianidad.

Excluded the childhood, the mortality that are relatively low among the youths, ascends slowly toward the groups means and you reach the summit between the 65 and the 75 years of age. On the contrary, in the underdeveloped countries, you are an enormous infant mortality and you are a fixed proportion of people that you/they die in each time unit and you give place to some much more smoothed mortality curves.

They are well many the autore that consider that the start of the phenomena of the senescencia has an etiologic take-off in the degenerative processes, of an organ, well of a system.

The alteration in the hormonal secretion of the glands endócrinas, especially your decrease, you have allowed to elaborate diverse hypothesis explaining the lawsuits of the ageing. This way, the atrophy of the sexual glands and the consistent ullage of hormonal secretion was interpreted like lawsuit of the senility.

You were a biologist and Russian surgeon, Voronoff, who at the beginning of the XX century, in a trip for Muslim countries observed the precocious old-age of the eunuchs and your death to early ages; you related these facts with the ablation of your testicles, you conceived the possibility from a therapy substitute inhertando genital glands coming from young primates to aged people, you achieved with it some successes that popularized your theories extraordinarily.
Later on it proceeded also to implant the gland thyroid and the hypophysis at the same time that the genital ones, with that which seemed to come closer more to remedy the bugs that accuse in the hormonal order the aged organism.
You are verified indeed in the senescencia a hipotiroidismo syndrome, with a decrease of the basal metabolism, dry and cold skin, accented sensibility to the cold, dilatory cerebración, memory leak, hypercholesterolemia, etc., that they translate a hipofunción of the thyroid with atrophy of the gland, returning the symptomatology with the implantation of fresh glandular tissue or with the management of the hormone.

Modern grandparents

The improvement in the quality and quantity of life has changed the pattern of grandparents intensely with which we were years ago. Although the birth of a grandson implies a great mobilization for its grandparents, it is no longer given in a land in which there is not anything or almost nothing else that to wait, but rather in most of the cases, they arrive to the life of beings that you/they are still very active, independent and with personal interests.   
  
The grandsons arrive to the life of the grandparents when these in the middle of operation are, with multiple activities, for that that the relationship, the encounter spaces for both generations vary, and they are given in a very different way regarding which you/they were last century.  
  
The appearance of maternal centers that you/they take charge of the children from so tiny and the lack of time free with which the grandparents counted, he/she has made that the quality of the relationship has varied. In most of the cases, they are not quines they take care exclusively of the grandsons, but those who share, in some situations, the upbringing. This has recreated in many cases the relationship, not being already mom's substitutes and dad, but rather they really appear in the life of the grandsons occupying the place of the grandparents.  
  
Without any doubt in most of the cases, they continue being par excellence people in who more the parents trust the care of their children, as substitutes. They continue being for the parents a permanent source of support to which is appealed in front of the doubts, uncertainties about the education, be this way it stops then to criticize them or to remind them how much of that that now advise they didn't put it into practice when they educated them to them. They continue being many times “the recesses” affectionate for the boy, where he/she can eat things that he/she is not able to at home, to go to bed later or to have somebody dear that plays with him, it counts him stories and he/she gives him extra affection.  
  
  
As in any human relationship, and neither that to speak of this so intense, it is natural that conflicts arise. For the parents who begin a new one on the way to responsibility, passing themselves to be parents, the necessity arises of being proven in its new function that is independent of the opinion of its own parents and putting into practice that that I eat children feels to have learned, either to repeat it or not. For the grandparents, the relationship with their grandsons much times it is lived as the possibility that the life offers them of liquidating bills, of repairing. This removes them the weight of the responsibility of being the main ones relating educational and it allows them to enjoy the children having the experience that you/they have given them the years. It is of waiting then that they are sometimes exceeded in their functions or in their critics.