Divorced but not enemies - Separation

One of the reasons why it is desirable that the separation of a couple is civilized and is by mutual agreement of the boys. Simply, if only for pure practicality, it should have an open field of dialogue regarding the children.

Of course, we must try to avoid, however, that these disputes left over will be reflected in their education and never try to disturb and against the other over the child.

It is essential not to disparage the other, although they have finished the beating or despite being aware that it is a bad father (or mother), in the end is his dad (or mom) and needs the relationship. The child that you will either help you keep what you hear.

It should never hamper coexistence, quite the opposite: hacérsela easy and attractive. It is good to remind you, before leaving, that in the house where he is going to be (if) there are other boys and another mom, who can also tell you what to do. Important is instilling a flexibility and help them adapt. Not always what we will be the only thing good that exists.

Blackmail, the divide and conquer, not to be present in education. Sometimes, children tend to exploit the rivalries and differences of the parents in order to get away with it. This is a small "handling" totally innocent child.

Never be used for children as a weapon against his father (or mother). The inevitable result is that after the separation, disputes over education is more acute and complicated topics that were previously unresolved between the couple. Annoy or harm to another child through all that does is further complicate the situation.

Although not feel that way, these situations, if they live well, can be very positive. It is true that entail more difficulty, especially in the beginning: the child has to adapt to two different families and two systems of standards, however, eventually becomes more open mind, the more assumed maturity and flexibility with regard to relations human. If you know avoid jealousy and rivalry, complicity can be a great benefit to all.

Also for parents, the circumstances offered positive factors. The situation is especially complicated, we must not deny it, but it will give us the opportunity to develop the negotiating skills of dialogue and review our educational criteria, as opposed to having almost continuously. Therefore, no harm done, from time to time, an examination of conscience: maybe the other is not as comprehensive as we thought and it turns out that we do we are too rigid and severe.

In these families, called "assembled", is recovering a little sense of extended family with multiple relationships. Extending the reference field, bringing the models to imitate each other. Therefore, there are some who says that relationships are more rich and positive. Of course, always ensuring that the child has strong affections and sets a person to deal with it.

The divorce as an alternative to problems in partnerships

The couple and their stable world, has experienced severe changes in recent times, and today's society open and tolerant, welcomed that people find the opportunity to rebuild their lives.

The separation and the formation of a new partner, divorce and the fact to remarry, are now closely connected in our society, as many of those who divorce tend to remarry or form new partnerships, sometimes shortly after the separation.

Usually, the longer a person remains free to marry after the divorce, less likely to re-marry. Many of those who do not return to do so, regret, as they would like to re-form pair, but can not find the right person, while others do not marry by choice.

In some ways it is understandable that those who are separated or divorced recently may be reluctant to new relationships, marriage for them, has meant an experience of suffering, destruction and bitterness such that it is impossible to imagine a second chance.

However, some cache marriages where one or more rarely both members, want to marry someone else, which has been in love. Although it is normal that arise from serious relationships overnight, the common word "enjoy" indicates a study to the strangeness and fragility in the emerging afloat the deepest feelings.

It should also be noted that in relations triangle, where there is already a mistress, who is in the midst of the transition between a relationship and the other, can also experience pressure from her lover, sometimes sufficient to be considered as a kind of blackmail.

The lover, anxious and insecure, fearing that the feelings of loyalty and commitment to family was crossing the road in his new happiness, or may try to threaten to fight with his new partner ending the relationship. And well, although suffering such pressures may respond by taking a decision, its consequences will be very different from those of a decision taken by someone who has the opportunity to think and accept the long-term consequences. The important decisions should not be compelling even for the person who takes, and it becomes very difficult for everyone involved.