Secret formula for separated without rancor

It is sad when love ends and sometimes it becomes difficult to summon up the courage and take the decision. But we have to face things and cut with a link that has no raison d'etre. If you go through a situation like this, perform a ritual cutting soft, so as not to lose touch with who was his partner, getting a little traumatic rupture and be friends forever.

You need:
A photo of his own and another couple. It is important to have been taken before they began their relationship.
2 small boxes.
2 long strips, one blue and one green.
1 almanac of the year.

• Take the two boxes and bautícelas. A bear his name and the other, of the person who is separated. Type the names on the lids.

• Take pictures and paste them into the bottom of boxes.

• Tape the boxes. Put them together in a horizontal position and begin to link them (horizontally) with the blue tape, saying that:
With this tie, keep the good memories and express my wish that we be friends until the end of our lives.

• When the tape is finished, leave a pretty long stretch of the blue ribbon free and begins to link the boxes vertically with green tape. Read as follows:
Our relationship will change for the better. This is a soft cut, which will allow us to grow and suffering will happen soon.

• Attach the final stretch of green tape on so that it's blue ribbon.

• Take the calendar and circle in red on the day that performs the ritual. With the same marker or pencil, draw a circle with a dotted line around the day they want to cut the link.

• Place the boxes tied on the almanac and save everything in a place where only you have access to.

Meditation with the greatest mysteries of the tarot

When much time has passed since the disengagement (more than half a year), it is desirable to see whether it is feasible to attempt a reconciliation. There are opportunities in that it is better to start again, leave the past behind and could 'maintain all the energy in the future.

To make sure you know if you should forget to always be that you lose sleep or whether, on the contrary, it should emphasize the goal of reconquering, we suggest a meditation with Tarot cards that function as a true oracle.

To facilitate their concentration, prime the environment in which they will work. Turn sahumerio a mild flavor and ilumínese with a candle flame violet. Take a deck of Tarot there and kick the 22 greatest mysteries.

Arrange all the cards face down on a table. Breathe deeply to relax. Take a letter at random. Mirela well. Empathize with the figure seen and perceived how it feels to occupy that role. Connect with each of the elements present in the letter (water, animals, road, objects, etc.). What sensations seized what? Do you feel that there is the league the past, the memories, or that it proposes a new road? What do you suggest the position of the figure? Do you find that "go" or "again"? If you perceive that the figure is far, the suggestion is clear.

You must put the past behind them and try new directions. In the second case, which advises the Tarot is that try to retrieve the love of being that loves, because it still linked to you by very powerful feelings.

Warning. It is imperative that you be absolutely honest with yourself when you do this meditation. Do not try to autoconvencerse. If you feel that what embarga when he meditates with arcane election is the remoteness, accept the opinion of Oracle.

Divorced but not enemies - Separation

One of the reasons why it is desirable that the separation of a couple is civilized and is by mutual agreement of the boys. Simply, if only for pure practicality, it should have an open field of dialogue regarding the children.

Of course, we must try to avoid, however, that these disputes left over will be reflected in their education and never try to disturb and against the other over the child.

It is essential not to disparage the other, although they have finished the beating or despite being aware that it is a bad father (or mother), in the end is his dad (or mom) and needs the relationship. The child that you will either help you keep what you hear.

It should never hamper coexistence, quite the opposite: hacérsela easy and attractive. It is good to remind you, before leaving, that in the house where he is going to be (if) there are other boys and another mom, who can also tell you what to do. Important is instilling a flexibility and help them adapt. Not always what we will be the only thing good that exists.

Blackmail, the divide and conquer, not to be present in education. Sometimes, children tend to exploit the rivalries and differences of the parents in order to get away with it. This is a small "handling" totally innocent child.

Never be used for children as a weapon against his father (or mother). The inevitable result is that after the separation, disputes over education is more acute and complicated topics that were previously unresolved between the couple. Annoy or harm to another child through all that does is further complicate the situation.

Although not feel that way, these situations, if they live well, can be very positive. It is true that entail more difficulty, especially in the beginning: the child has to adapt to two different families and two systems of standards, however, eventually becomes more open mind, the more assumed maturity and flexibility with regard to relations human. If you know avoid jealousy and rivalry, complicity can be a great benefit to all.

Also for parents, the circumstances offered positive factors. The situation is especially complicated, we must not deny it, but it will give us the opportunity to develop the negotiating skills of dialogue and review our educational criteria, as opposed to having almost continuously. Therefore, no harm done, from time to time, an examination of conscience: maybe the other is not as comprehensive as we thought and it turns out that we do we are too rigid and severe.

In these families, called "assembled", is recovering a little sense of extended family with multiple relationships. Extending the reference field, bringing the models to imitate each other. Therefore, there are some who says that relationships are more rich and positive. Of course, always ensuring that the child has strong affections and sets a person to deal with it.

The love after a separation

If the marriage has been eroding ido no conflicts or major violent discussions, we may continue to exist affection between the two occurs when the rupture.

A woman can confess to her husband for example, that although still wish to feel love with another. Those who are not locamente lovers can analyze it so much more balanced and more distance.

Such feelings often do not last and are a fragile basis on which to make decisions serious and potentially costly. Lawyers tend to be particularly cautious in these cases, and sometimes try to dissuade their customers telling them clearly that they can not afford to pay for a divorce. Such advice is usually ignored by those who are trapped in a network of strong emotions contrasted: the meaning of welfare, which is associated with the fact falling in love, and the sense of panic and indecision that the new relationship has brought.

The fact of falling in love tends to intensify the sense of one's own individuality. We affirm that our feelings are different and unique, and we must choose the consequences for ourselves.

Being in love has different meaning for each person. Some fall in love with regularity, noting his propensity with a certain distance and with humor; gives color to life and is a potential source of distress to disturbances, but should not be taken too seriously. Repos, on the other hand, a man or a woman who married the person who had been in love. When you look to the past, searching for a meaning to their lives, they realize that falling in love was a critical event that has since almost all molded his personality, has been the basis of their union, the first step toward fatherhood and origin of their most cherished memories.

Although the circumstances of his union have changed considerably, they can continue to say they are in love with their partner, even if they find it difficult to say how it demonstrates what it means. If they return to enjoy them will be much more difficult to weigh what this means and that should give the answer.

This feeling of powerlessness, of being incapable of doing anything other than respond to such sentiments, strong and rarely lived, is accentuated if decisions are made hastily.

The stories of falling in love coming out in magazines or on television programmes, is always associated with marriage, to start over, being the wedding day the first day of the rest of their lives. Those who marry a second time, rarely mark the beginning of his new life as a couple in this way.

The divorce as an alternative to problems in partnerships

The couple and their stable world, has experienced severe changes in recent times, and today's society open and tolerant, welcomed that people find the opportunity to rebuild their lives.

The separation and the formation of a new partner, divorce and the fact to remarry, are now closely connected in our society, as many of those who divorce tend to remarry or form new partnerships, sometimes shortly after the separation.

Usually, the longer a person remains free to marry after the divorce, less likely to re-marry. Many of those who do not return to do so, regret, as they would like to re-form pair, but can not find the right person, while others do not marry by choice.

In some ways it is understandable that those who are separated or divorced recently may be reluctant to new relationships, marriage for them, has meant an experience of suffering, destruction and bitterness such that it is impossible to imagine a second chance.

However, some cache marriages where one or more rarely both members, want to marry someone else, which has been in love. Although it is normal that arise from serious relationships overnight, the common word "enjoy" indicates a study to the strangeness and fragility in the emerging afloat the deepest feelings.

It should also be noted that in relations triangle, where there is already a mistress, who is in the midst of the transition between a relationship and the other, can also experience pressure from her lover, sometimes sufficient to be considered as a kind of blackmail.

The lover, anxious and insecure, fearing that the feelings of loyalty and commitment to family was crossing the road in his new happiness, or may try to threaten to fight with his new partner ending the relationship. And well, although suffering such pressures may respond by taking a decision, its consequences will be very different from those of a decision taken by someone who has the opportunity to think and accept the long-term consequences. The important decisions should not be compelling even for the person who takes, and it becomes very difficult for everyone involved.

Virtual infidelity and your hazards

Internet has transformed into a new way of gestating loving relationships that, although they cannot involve the physical contact - at least initially -, they don't stop in and of itself to be extremely loaded with sexual content.

Indeed, the "cases" for Internet usually involve the same classes of pansies and emotions that any other relationship, that which include secrets, fantasies, enthusiasm, frustrations, negation, rationalization, etc., and in and of itself same you also have the potential of being devastating for other relationships them to stay at the same time.

A typical case

The typical case of many people in couple, is to happen more and more on-line time, with the purpose of having interactions that provide you a "outlet" of the daily reality.

With the time, the world of fantasy that show up in Internet can make you see to the true world as something monotonous and boring, in which are impossible to know the enormous quantity of intimacies that people can admit by means of Internet.

Once you are somebody interesting on-line, they enter the best side in your legal capacity, as well as they make it your parties. Both begin to share intimacies, hopes, fears, or fantasies, that which them Preposition even more, and you make the fantasies on the other person to be still more intense and deeper. Naturally, the love is born and with him a necessity every time bigger than actual interaction.

By the way, all these changes don't happen inadvertent for the respective ones even that begin to suspect or to want to know on the "friends" that have your husband / to in Internet. And although the cybernauts deny or rationalize your on-line activity, your couples begin to suspect every day more and to be threatened.

But these people continue ignoring, or directly denying, the impact that have all this in your couples. Anyway, these last begin to more thoroughly know the status and they are desolated and betrayed.

However, the cybernauts are safe that, as you have not had "true" sex, anything should import, but the certain thing is that they are even this way more near your virtual friends than of your own couple.

And a point arrives in the one that are irresistible to meet with the friend / to virtual in person, because these people feel that they have known your "partners of the soul", and that they seem book credit been made "the one for the other" one, for what would be worthwhile to imperil everything for them.

But the actual person is very different to the virtual one, and to the end of one short run you/he/she is patent that the relationship won't work. However, the life of these people has never changed a way imagined. And you are that since they stopped to pay carefulness to your actual couple, and the same one was stagnating, while that I magnify replacement for which you/they neither bet you have given fruits.

Some reflections

Creates or not, these cases are more common of what many believe, and without doubts they can be a terminus a quo to make general different observations.

In the first place, you would be good to know that all the virtual new connections are usually touching, but you are more than possible that are not in particular the person who make the difference. You happen that, although you are not perceived, the enthusiasm usually has more than to do with the relationship "class" that with the specific feelings that the actual person would generate.

But also, in all the new relationships, be or not for Internet, people enter the best side of itself, that which don't mean that indeed they are this way the whole time, in the daily life.

With too much frequency we think of the love like those vertiginous and intense feelings that take place in front of the dazzle, but although all this can be a fantastic test, much of the intensity of the feelings is simply inherent to the same novelty.

In fact, once a "dream" love should open the way to all the responsibilities of the daily life in a long term relationship, the feelings will follow the transition toward the proximate deepest stages in the love, or desparecerán. For that reason, to compare the feelings experienced in a new relationship with the feelings that stay with the couple of long time ago, you are as comparing apples with oranges.

As for the impact in the relationship with the married couple, you are very communio that these cybernauts underestimate in a start the relationship for Internet to consider that it cannot really be a case, since there not even is not involved sex. But often, these relationships also have the potential of being truly devastating for the couple, the same as if you double-crossed him to him with a sexual relationship.

In fact, most of people that he/she discover that your couples double-crossed them sexually with another person, don't feel so annoying for the sexual slip in yes but for the book credit fact been double-crossed and swindled in your good faith.

By the way, they are many those that think that one can only speak of double-cross when a total involved lie exists. But a more exact definition of an ullage of honesty in a relationship could be to "retain pertinent" information, that is to say to hide deliberately something to the couple, as the fact of being maintaining a very intimate relationship with some mediating person Internet. This will also create an emotional distance that will enter a problem difficult to expire.

Although you are not easy to suit in the definition of what could be a case for Internet, something that yes you are very clear you are that when a couple a wound or a threat, are for that you will be perceiving that you are in game something more than a bare entertainment. And when they injure the feelings, but this is ignored or underrated, you can be evidencing an ullage of care toward the couple that could be even much more pernicious that the virtual same relationship.

The certain thing is that the relationships for Internet in married people have many chances of causing a fissure or total destruction of the primary relationships, no matter how much that is not the original intention. And seeing it retrospectively, many people that your couples ended up having actual relationships with those people that knew virtually, recognize that they would putrefy or they would owe book credit known in what you/they entered, but that they were as dazzled by the novelty, although they didn't want to have a relationship neither to break your couple.

For that reason, if you are about beginning to maintain relationships in Internet, more than to wonder if that is correct, you should wonder if you are intelligent. In many opportunities, when searching something better for your lives, or a way to break up with the monotonicity, they can be very gratifying things, but in other cases it can still end with less.

This way, unless you is in a terminal crisis with the couple, the ideal thing to begin to revive the interior passion would be think the couple's aspects again, to determine other roads that could take to that both members of the same one feel better and more alive, but always rooted in the reality before in the virtualidad or the fantasy.

A beginning of virtual romance, you could serve then like a warning signal that they need to improve things in the own couple. This should be the focus of carefulness, knowing that any forfeiture that are experienced when a virtual relationship concludes, you are in fact the forfeiture of a fantasy, and not of something actual, contrary to a couple of years.

The hazards of the virtual infidelity

The ciberinfieles every time they are more, but the services that he/she offer the network to discover them also grow.

Eric has girlfriend, but a fond one is admitted to visit the chats to know new people. And although you swear to be in love with your girl, never ullage to your virtual appointments with your 'ciberconquistas.' "For me it is only a game. You have a good time me to know people for this mean. I believe that you really show yourself like you are, although you are who are not sincere. Not I believe that this means to be unfaithful", you admit.

The emergence of internet, your extents, as well as the anonimity and the privacy in which can be browsed have generated social interesting phenomena, and one of the most important is the one named 'ciberinfidelidad', a new term that mean to establish a relationship extramarital, in most of the cases without being involved physically with the umpire, although you are also who yes you take the relationship to the physical plan, and that you stay through electronic mails and instant messages.

This status has generated cybernetic new services, among those that the compound numbers stand out 'virtual detectives', for cachar to the infidel and, on the other hand, other agencies that you/they offer alibis so that the infidels are not discovered
In accordance with experts in the matter, the network is a mean that facilitate to double-cross the couple. This scans it to depth the French publication In bed with the Web: Internet, him nouvel adulterates (In the bed with the web: Internet, the new criminal conversation), written by Loic Roche and Yannick Chatelain, in which are also exposed that more and more French they succumb to the virtual relationships.

The first of the authors are a physician in psychology and expert in the impact of the new technologies in the man, the second an expert in the network.

Both highlight that forums and chats are visited mainly by men. Although also for women like Carolina who although you have couple, from time to time visit the chats for 'to check' the creativity of the males. "In the personal thing I like chatear with unknown because both have that to toss to walk the genius when courting. You are from to the most romantic type until to the most flattering. In an occasion I was about to do me with somebody with who took already months chateando, but later I thought that the interesting of the relationship is that he is ignored for me, so I preferred to maintain this way" it, you admitted.
According to the writers, when being wired to internet is "very plain to establish virtual (most of the times under a dummy identity) relationships, a state of permanent search is believed and of dependence."

To know different people through the network has transformed into a lifestyle, because you "give the illusion afrodisíaca of being almighty, you are something similar to what happen with the alcohol in the parties of adolescents, it works as a desinhibidor", Loic Roche says.

The hazards of the virtual infidelity (you leave II)

In love cybernetic:

The consequences of this phenomenon are countless and many even unsuspected. In the tribunals of United States, for example, the electronic infidelity is already a causal of divorce.

And you are that for the victims of the double-cross, you are not so complicated to check the 'cybernetic criminal conversation', because you are easy to procure copies of the mails that swap those 'ciberamantes.'

In France, like in many other countries, every day 25 thousand new people register in Meetic, the biggest place of encounters in Europe that count with more than of 11 million members.

More investigations

Other publications like that of the American siquiatra Esther Gwinnell, titled The love in internet, outlines that the love among cybernauts has the inducement of helping an individual to overcome the solitude.

Nevertheless, the author also exposes the pathologies, conflicts and risks to those that face people that chatean, because in the network they traffic all type of specimens.

"From donjuanes and accomplished chameleons, until hermits, shy, obsesos and mythomaniac professionals, so an online relationship could complicate enough the life", concludes.

New services

As consequence of this phenomenon, in the Internet services have also been created that offer 'to cover' the infidelities for not running the risk of being more communio descubiertoLo are to receive by mail or for telephone an invitation to a congress, correspondent to the house or company, confirming the care to this event.

It can even be organized a loving encounter that seem a labor subject.

The other side of the currency is those 'virtual detectives' whose number every day you grow who are contracted by husbands and jealous wives to investigate your couple's cybernetic activities and to investigate about your secret desires and hidden perversions... for not mentioning the existence of a relationship in form.

How to avoid the infidelity

We invite you to that come undone of that ugly one dummy that destroy many couples, the infidelity. In this occasion, we offer you two methods, one to discover if your couple is you unfaithful; and the other one to avoid that the infidelity takes possession of your relationship. You follow these commissions and you will see the results.

Before the doubt...

You are determined occasions, in those that we believe to not note indications of infidelity in our couple that you/they wake up in us for extraneous different attitudes, habitual, of the other one in the quotidian life.

So that you can realize, with running of the days, if that sensation that invade you is truthful or you are simply about the so usual jealousies, you carry out the following:
1. You light two white candles that are one next to the other one, and you support on them San Antonio's print.
2. After lighting them, you repeat in high voice: I "request to the forces of the love that you/they intercede through San Antonio to know if my love double-crosses me or they are my jealousies those that take me toward the distrust."
3. You wait to that the candles waste away and then he/she repeats: "As well as they fade these candles my problems they will end. They will fade the jealousies or the doubts that I have on my couple because I will make the necessary thing so that you are" this way.
4. You throw the remains from the candles to the garbage.
5. You save the saint's print above yours and you search the appropriate occasion to speak with your couple and to outline you your restlessness.
6. Lastly, pray the sentence together to San Antonio that are behind the print.

To avoid infidelities...

The afirmacines is sentences that are always announced in psitivo with the purpose of solucinar a problem that lock us to act in the life. You repeat this statement, in first person and also, putting on in the place of your to be loved, every time that d einfidelidad comes to mind negative pansies able to bring conflicts: I "trust myself fully and in my couple." And later: You "trust me and in our couple." Repeat it different times.

I ended with my couple

There are very powerful forces in this world and of all them the love is the supreme one, since it is able to make big things, as healing, to save the life of somebody to give sense to the life, to offer solidarity, to project the future, to engender a boy. The love also, is the sap of the big ideals, of the vocation, of the sense. Not there is loveless life and for those that are believing, the universe not and but an act of love of God. Be already about a wounded heart or of a hurt body, it is all told ésto that the love is the great mean.

It is logical then that when a couple ends one I/you/he/she is not only destroyed, but rather I/you/he/she loses all the measured securities when there is love that we have already mentioned in the previous paragraph. But many times, the love that we believed that it existed it was not actual, but an illusion caused by our body by the mere necessity of feeding of the love. But the more bad, many times, one is victim of the persecution of an ex.pareja. It is important to know that you can release of the influence caused by the former-couple. and there is a trick here to achieve it.

Ritual to come undone of the former-couple:

1-in a cloth of white color, it arranges a paper and he/she writes, with brush or marker, the persistent person's complete name in words big upper case (of printing), first of right to left, and below, of left to right.

2-TO part, it blends and a vessel: thick salt, pepper and some drops of vinegar. Revolve them well. It anoints your index finger in the mixture and he/she writes the name again above the one that already this writing.

3-while you make ésto, he/she says in high voice: "this act cuts your influence, it undoes your power, it withdraws your memory, it avoids your appearance. Veto of my life! In peace we are both." Make the same thing from left to right and he/she repeats the text that we have just exposed.

4-ribbon the mixture that was above that written and face a bun. Put this bun exactly in the freezer during 27 days. Past this time, reiterate it, wrap it in plastic and throw it to the water, very far your house.