What to do with your partner's infidelity

Infidelity is a ghost that goes around above our heads and that many people fear, but most of the time it hurt our pride that dictates the guidelines to follow when it appears the umpire. And is that nobody is willing to believe that his partner, with which both shared, you were able to fall in love with someone else. In a situation of this kind, "the anger, bitterness and confusion take over the person and the sense of rootlessness and helplessness that often occur temporarily destabilize his psychic equilibrium."

Where there's smoke ...
With few exceptions, established couple lina person does not love another if you are in love with his partner and has a satisfying sexual and emotional life. According to the special "assumes that the relationship already suffer some degree of deterioration before one of the two issues raised by the possibility of another bond of love."
In general, it all starts with just "flirting" which aim to thrill-seeking outside the breast of a couple that has entered a phase of routine, or is in a time of crisis. Gradually, what began as a casual affair, if the couple has taken up the case, can lead to a deeper relationship and in a state of infatuation that it can hardly stop.

Accepting the reality:
Give back to the problem-reaction, on the other hand, fairly common, and think that everything will be all alone is the perfect fertilizer for budding relationship that germinate and bear fruit. The reaction is healthy mature i speak as calmly as possible, to analyze how the relationship is damaged and can or should try to) save.

But if the thing is not a simple affair and your partner really thinks falling in love, we must, of course, plant separation masters and be prepared to face all that this entails. Actually it all depends on the sincerity and courage of our partners, you have in your hands soften or aggravate the sensaciór of neglect, because if he does not dare to face a problem, they will generally only achieve aggressive behaviors that add to conflicts.
The left, though rational and keeping calm, ur going to go through difficult period, where if self-esteem will be seriously undermined and that its behavior can range from grief and depression to promiscuity and the desperate search a new partner.

We will have to ride out the storm as best as possible, trying to distract, changing environment, image and thinking that love is e-hoosing and your partner has. We seek the support of our family and friends without shame and try not to withdraw into ourselves. In any case, if it becomes too difficult to overcome the crisis, we must not hesitate to turn to a specialist to clarify our confusion and make the drink less bitter.

Starting again:
If the relationship is young, the break is easier, as the commitment and the bond are small. The problem is compounded when there are children, economic dependence or social pressures, factors that act as barriers arise when separation.

White magic against infidelity

If you are suspicious that your boyfriend or girlfriend is not being fair, try to break this spell and ensure the respect of any interference.

Objective: to clear out their romantic relationship and a third in discord or people who want to affect your good communication.
What you need: 1 lemon, 7 silver and 7 nails baby blue ribbons (if your partner is male) or pink (if female) of about 10 cm long. In addition, a red bag or a square of cloth of that color.

Instructions:
• Wash the lemon and nailed 7 nails across the surface.
• Then, tie a ribbon to each nail and fasten with a knot (not to bow ties).
• Save the lemon in the bag or pack with the red cloth in a drawer Keep your wardrobe until the situation involving the couple has improved, and then discard it immediately. To do this, take the bag to a park (without touching the lemon) and entérrelo without being seen, or simply pull into a waste basket.

Infidelity cases - Call for exterminating angel

This ritual is to stop your partner's infidelity. The infidelities are not always associated with the end of love.

Both men and women, sexual relations outside of the couple reveal fear of commitment or personal insecurities. Although love too, in some cases this behavior is difficult to eradicate. To exterminate these fears that many couples immersed in sorrow and powerlessness, we call a crusade.

• Make a rectangle with four red candles, put a picture in the center of the loved one. Put you pledge any of his or companion, and make the wrap. Then say the following prayer: Angel guardian of (name of partner), help to protect and not damage most ai man or woman I love. I know the shield protecting it from light and the mirror in which I reflect in this way to be able to know my problem and stop this evil. The garment must bear its below the red for a week. Repeat this operation these times as it may deem necessary.

Virtual infidelity and your hazards

Internet has transformed into a new way of gestating loving relationships that, although they cannot involve the physical contact - at least initially -, they don't stop in and of itself to be extremely loaded with sexual content.

Indeed, the "cases" for Internet usually involve the same classes of pansies and emotions that any other relationship, that which include secrets, fantasies, enthusiasm, frustrations, negation, rationalization, etc., and in and of itself same you also have the potential of being devastating for other relationships them to stay at the same time.

A typical case

The typical case of many people in couple, is to happen more and more on-line time, with the purpose of having interactions that provide you a "outlet" of the daily reality.

With the time, the world of fantasy that show up in Internet can make you see to the true world as something monotonous and boring, in which are impossible to know the enormous quantity of intimacies that people can admit by means of Internet.

Once you are somebody interesting on-line, they enter the best side in your legal capacity, as well as they make it your parties. Both begin to share intimacies, hopes, fears, or fantasies, that which them Preposition even more, and you make the fantasies on the other person to be still more intense and deeper. Naturally, the love is born and with him a necessity every time bigger than actual interaction.

By the way, all these changes don't happen inadvertent for the respective ones even that begin to suspect or to want to know on the "friends" that have your husband / to in Internet. And although the cybernauts deny or rationalize your on-line activity, your couples begin to suspect every day more and to be threatened.

But these people continue ignoring, or directly denying, the impact that have all this in your couples. Anyway, these last begin to more thoroughly know the status and they are desolated and betrayed.

However, the cybernauts are safe that, as you have not had "true" sex, anything should import, but the certain thing is that they are even this way more near your virtual friends than of your own couple.

And a point arrives in the one that are irresistible to meet with the friend / to virtual in person, because these people feel that they have known your "partners of the soul", and that they seem book credit been made "the one for the other" one, for what would be worthwhile to imperil everything for them.

But the actual person is very different to the virtual one, and to the end of one short run you/he/she is patent that the relationship won't work. However, the life of these people has never changed a way imagined. And you are that since they stopped to pay carefulness to your actual couple, and the same one was stagnating, while that I magnify replacement for which you/they neither bet you have given fruits.

Some reflections

Creates or not, these cases are more common of what many believe, and without doubts they can be a terminus a quo to make general different observations.

In the first place, you would be good to know that all the virtual new connections are usually touching, but you are more than possible that are not in particular the person who make the difference. You happen that, although you are not perceived, the enthusiasm usually has more than to do with the relationship "class" that with the specific feelings that the actual person would generate.

But also, in all the new relationships, be or not for Internet, people enter the best side of itself, that which don't mean that indeed they are this way the whole time, in the daily life.

With too much frequency we think of the love like those vertiginous and intense feelings that take place in front of the dazzle, but although all this can be a fantastic test, much of the intensity of the feelings is simply inherent to the same novelty.

In fact, once a "dream" love should open the way to all the responsibilities of the daily life in a long term relationship, the feelings will follow the transition toward the proximate deepest stages in the love, or desparecerán. For that reason, to compare the feelings experienced in a new relationship with the feelings that stay with the couple of long time ago, you are as comparing apples with oranges.

As for the impact in the relationship with the married couple, you are very communio that these cybernauts underestimate in a start the relationship for Internet to consider that it cannot really be a case, since there not even is not involved sex. But often, these relationships also have the potential of being truly devastating for the couple, the same as if you double-crossed him to him with a sexual relationship.

In fact, most of people that he/she discover that your couples double-crossed them sexually with another person, don't feel so annoying for the sexual slip in yes but for the book credit fact been double-crossed and swindled in your good faith.

By the way, they are many those that think that one can only speak of double-cross when a total involved lie exists. But a more exact definition of an ullage of honesty in a relationship could be to "retain pertinent" information, that is to say to hide deliberately something to the couple, as the fact of being maintaining a very intimate relationship with some mediating person Internet. This will also create an emotional distance that will enter a problem difficult to expire.

Although you are not easy to suit in the definition of what could be a case for Internet, something that yes you are very clear you are that when a couple a wound or a threat, are for that you will be perceiving that you are in game something more than a bare entertainment. And when they injure the feelings, but this is ignored or underrated, you can be evidencing an ullage of care toward the couple that could be even much more pernicious that the virtual same relationship.

The certain thing is that the relationships for Internet in married people have many chances of causing a fissure or total destruction of the primary relationships, no matter how much that is not the original intention. And seeing it retrospectively, many people that your couples ended up having actual relationships with those people that knew virtually, recognize that they would putrefy or they would owe book credit known in what you/they entered, but that they were as dazzled by the novelty, although they didn't want to have a relationship neither to break your couple.

For that reason, if you are about beginning to maintain relationships in Internet, more than to wonder if that is correct, you should wonder if you are intelligent. In many opportunities, when searching something better for your lives, or a way to break up with the monotonicity, they can be very gratifying things, but in other cases it can still end with less.

This way, unless you is in a terminal crisis with the couple, the ideal thing to begin to revive the interior passion would be think the couple's aspects again, to determine other roads that could take to that both members of the same one feel better and more alive, but always rooted in the reality before in the virtualidad or the fantasy.

A beginning of virtual romance, you could serve then like a warning signal that they need to improve things in the own couple. This should be the focus of carefulness, knowing that any forfeiture that are experienced when a virtual relationship concludes, you are in fact the forfeiture of a fantasy, and not of something actual, contrary to a couple of years.

The hazards of the virtual infidelity

The ciberinfieles every time they are more, but the services that he/she offer the network to discover them also grow.

Eric has girlfriend, but a fond one is admitted to visit the chats to know new people. And although you swear to be in love with your girl, never ullage to your virtual appointments with your 'ciberconquistas.' "For me it is only a game. You have a good time me to know people for this mean. I believe that you really show yourself like you are, although you are who are not sincere. Not I believe that this means to be unfaithful", you admit.

The emergence of internet, your extents, as well as the anonimity and the privacy in which can be browsed have generated social interesting phenomena, and one of the most important is the one named 'ciberinfidelidad', a new term that mean to establish a relationship extramarital, in most of the cases without being involved physically with the umpire, although you are also who yes you take the relationship to the physical plan, and that you stay through electronic mails and instant messages.

This status has generated cybernetic new services, among those that the compound numbers stand out 'virtual detectives', for cachar to the infidel and, on the other hand, other agencies that you/they offer alibis so that the infidels are not discovered
In accordance with experts in the matter, the network is a mean that facilitate to double-cross the couple. This scans it to depth the French publication In bed with the Web: Internet, him nouvel adulterates (In the bed with the web: Internet, the new criminal conversation), written by Loic Roche and Yannick Chatelain, in which are also exposed that more and more French they succumb to the virtual relationships.

The first of the authors are a physician in psychology and expert in the impact of the new technologies in the man, the second an expert in the network.

Both highlight that forums and chats are visited mainly by men. Although also for women like Carolina who although you have couple, from time to time visit the chats for 'to check' the creativity of the males. "In the personal thing I like chatear with unknown because both have that to toss to walk the genius when courting. You are from to the most romantic type until to the most flattering. In an occasion I was about to do me with somebody with who took already months chateando, but later I thought that the interesting of the relationship is that he is ignored for me, so I preferred to maintain this way" it, you admitted.
According to the writers, when being wired to internet is "very plain to establish virtual (most of the times under a dummy identity) relationships, a state of permanent search is believed and of dependence."

To know different people through the network has transformed into a lifestyle, because you "give the illusion afrodisíaca of being almighty, you are something similar to what happen with the alcohol in the parties of adolescents, it works as a desinhibidor", Loic Roche says.

The hazards of the virtual infidelity (you leave II)

In love cybernetic:

The consequences of this phenomenon are countless and many even unsuspected. In the tribunals of United States, for example, the electronic infidelity is already a causal of divorce.

And you are that for the victims of the double-cross, you are not so complicated to check the 'cybernetic criminal conversation', because you are easy to procure copies of the mails that swap those 'ciberamantes.'

In France, like in many other countries, every day 25 thousand new people register in Meetic, the biggest place of encounters in Europe that count with more than of 11 million members.

More investigations

Other publications like that of the American siquiatra Esther Gwinnell, titled The love in internet, outlines that the love among cybernauts has the inducement of helping an individual to overcome the solitude.

Nevertheless, the author also exposes the pathologies, conflicts and risks to those that face people that chatean, because in the network they traffic all type of specimens.

"From donjuanes and accomplished chameleons, until hermits, shy, obsesos and mythomaniac professionals, so an online relationship could complicate enough the life", concludes.

New services

As consequence of this phenomenon, in the Internet services have also been created that offer 'to cover' the infidelities for not running the risk of being more communio descubiertoLo are to receive by mail or for telephone an invitation to a congress, correspondent to the house or company, confirming the care to this event.

It can even be organized a loving encounter that seem a labor subject.

The other side of the currency is those 'virtual detectives' whose number every day you grow who are contracted by husbands and jealous wives to investigate your couple's cybernetic activities and to investigate about your secret desires and hidden perversions... for not mentioning the existence of a relationship in form.

Unfaithful or Faithful? The look responds!

LONDON (Reuters)--The members of the opposite sex can know if somebody is searching sex of one night or something more permanent just by looking at it to the face, they said scientific yesterday.
In the men, a square mandible, a long nose and some petty and clear eyes, they are spread to leave traslucir lasciviousness before love.
The women find the men with softer features as the spread to the compromise.
A studio led by investigators of the University of Durham also found that, although the men judge if a woman is unworried and more relaxed as for the amusement or not, you are not facial common particulars that you/they explain to it
A 700 heterosexual people participated in the polling, carried out by investigators of the universities of Durham, St.Andrews and Aberdeen.
In one of the tests, 72 percent of the 153 entrants identified the attitudes of a group of men and women of twenty years correctly to those that were shown pictures and facial images.
Published in the magazine "Evolution and Human Behaviour", the studio also sample that the women open to sexual occasional relationships were views like more attractive.
They spread to have big eyes and fleshy lips, as those of the actress Angelina Jolie.
The women are usually interested in men that seem more inclined to have a relationship of long journey.
The investigation spreads previous discoveries that show that the women come to the most masculine men as more inclined to the infidelity to confirm and to be bad parents.
The men and the women also spread to choose to your opposed ones.
The physician Lynda Boothroyd, of the department of Psychology of the University of Durham, said: "This shows that those first printouts can be part of how we evaluate our potential partners, or potential rivals, when we see them for the first time."
"That later will give place, with the time, to that person's deeper knowledge, and he/she can change with the age".

How to avoid the infidelity

We invite you to that come undone of that ugly one dummy that destroy many couples, the infidelity. In this occasion, we offer you two methods, one to discover if your couple is you unfaithful; and the other one to avoid that the infidelity takes possession of your relationship. You follow these commissions and you will see the results.

Before the doubt...

You are determined occasions, in those that we believe to not note indications of infidelity in our couple that you/they wake up in us for extraneous different attitudes, habitual, of the other one in the quotidian life.

So that you can realize, with running of the days, if that sensation that invade you is truthful or you are simply about the so usual jealousies, you carry out the following:
1. You light two white candles that are one next to the other one, and you support on them San Antonio's print.
2. After lighting them, you repeat in high voice: I "request to the forces of the love that you/they intercede through San Antonio to know if my love double-crosses me or they are my jealousies those that take me toward the distrust."
3. You wait to that the candles waste away and then he/she repeats: "As well as they fade these candles my problems they will end. They will fade the jealousies or the doubts that I have on my couple because I will make the necessary thing so that you are" this way.
4. You throw the remains from the candles to the garbage.
5. You save the saint's print above yours and you search the appropriate occasion to speak with your couple and to outline you your restlessness.
6. Lastly, pray the sentence together to San Antonio that are behind the print.

To avoid infidelities...

The afirmacines is sentences that are always announced in psitivo with the purpose of solucinar a problem that lock us to act in the life. You repeat this statement, in first person and also, putting on in the place of your to be loved, every time that d einfidelidad comes to mind negative pansies able to bring conflicts: I "trust myself fully and in my couple." And later: You "trust me and in our couple." Repeat it different times.

Infidelity in the Couple

The fidelity is the deepest problem in the couple's life that is based mostly on the rejection to the change of having a stable couple, where in fact the rules or limitations are to be with that single person, stiller in the marriage, until the death separates them. The fidelity is something eternal that infiltrates in the being, and as long as it is an adarme of eternity, it is negation of the change, of the impermanence of the life.

Let us see this problem in the concrete matrimonial status: two beings unite in a certain moment of their life. The love, the longing of the one for the other one, the arrival of the children, these and other loops are destined to perpetuate the union. But, on the other hand, the life advances. That so intimate coexistence that it demands the matrimonial life it is never easy. Petty incomprehensions begin to separate the two beings. The love-passion of the beginning extinguishes little by little. The sexual instinct is stumped in the fog of the habit and it loses pressure, it forces and vigor. In this status a third person arises in his life, or in that of her, and the half sleeping desire wakes up appearing the infidelity. Then, when we are outlined a conflict of this nature it seems that the decisive factor has been "the third person" that he/she has appeared in the scenario. The status is similar to that of the neurotic conflicts. The trauma that happens in a certain moment of the life seems to engender the neurosis. The truth is that the neurosis was there and in latent state, and that the trauma has not made more than to crystallize it.

The status in the life are disparate and you grieve it is possible to find a common denominator for all them. If we wanted to search one, that it would be the boredom. The relationships between tedium and fidelity are very deep and they need to be clarified. The lived time doesn't have the same structure that the physical time, which is an anonymous time, equal for all. On the other hand, the lived time is different for each being. A moment of a personal life contains in its intimate structure to everything her. The personal time advances, not evenly as the physique, but discontinuously, each moment is richer than the previous one because the past enriches it. This way, the moments of each life are different to each other. The hope of the future maintains them upright. The sense of the life gets lost when the personal time demeans and he/she approaches, in its structure, at the biologic time.

The problems then that seemed only sexual, they have a deviation, behind all them other problems exist, as the anguish, the boredom, the tedium, the routine, the non planning, among other. Only he/she wakes up all this, when seeing that it exists other somebody that can "cover" that that no longer exists inside the relationship.

For that reason, it is advisable in the appearance of the first symptoms, and being attentive, to converge to couple therapy or psychological treatments to be able to bear the subject and to take out the couple ahead.