Therapy masks releases emotions

A new technique developed in Brazil enables patients to externalize their emotions without any prejudice. How?, Simply through the making of masks. People relax and get to release your emotions without trial that it is okay or not. This exercise helps self and serves also to overcome the problems of every day.

Professional or personal failure that, in general, is attributed to the failure may be caused by the same mental strength to act against. In this case, therapy is important to discover the source of the problem and understand the process that caused it. At the end of each session, patients who have studied the meanings of each garment mask (material, color, shape), and this analysis is used as a tool to analyze the thoughts.

What a child cope with depression

To diagnose depression, it is necessary to conduct a full psicodiagnóstico, which explores various aspects of the child, in addition to the observable symptoms that give a holistic view of the situation thereof.

First, allow us to know their personalities, their feelings, their fantasies and ideals. It also leads to know what their fears. Reconstruct also his life story, with special attention to losses, exceedances, die or change.

Another central issue for diagnosis is an understanding of the dynamics of the family in which the child is inserted: the relationship with their parents or brothers and sisters, its place in the family, the personality of their FATHER, etc..

Some elements who are in families of children depressive, depression in one of their parents, overt or covert rejection towards the child, family duels that have not been developed and especially the instability in the link with the child ( Parents changing, often absent or unavailable, which did not allow him to have little uniformity in the emotional experience and what undergo a chronic frustration).
The psicodiagnóstico, also lets you choose the most appropriate therapeutic strategy. The psychological treatment, resulting in a marked improvement in depressed children, and generally makes it unnecessary use of psychoactive drugs.

According to the problem, indicate an individual therapy, or family tie, while they give their parents a guide to understand and better assist its small.

Fear of fear

Patients with panic disorder often have a previous history of apprehension and concern about physical symptoms that lead to a catastrophic interpretation of bodily sensations.

Fear of fear define very well to this trend, where emotions and sensations of a different nature and origin end up being labelled by the patient as signs of physical disaster "will give me a heart attack," or mental "I will return crazy," it entered into a state growing very fast and acute anxiety to settle the panic attack.

There is a certain level of controversy in the scientific world, it seems that a previous state of anxiety could lead to widespread panic disorder, although there would be other patients who experience panic without identifiable cause, from a previous state of tranquillity.

Most often the patient is suffering from a state of anxiety and excessive personal possession variables autodemanda, refining and environmental and personal control.

Cognitive-behavioural therapy has been shown as an effective method for patients with these difficulties. This method is basa in relations between the thinking and anguish, the identification of thoughts, exercises avoided confrontation situations, strategies and distraction relaxation and breathing techniques.

Empathy and emotional intelligence

One of the key element that are part the emotional intelligence, is the empathy, which belong to the interpersonal domain.The empathy is the characteristic feature of the interpersonal successful relationships.

But, to what do we refer when we speak of empathy? The empathy is not another that "the ability to be aware of, to recognize, to understand and to appraise the feelings of the other" ones. In other words, the being empáticos is the being able to "read" people emotionally.

You are without a doubt an ability that, employee with success, facilitates the evolution and progress of all relationship type between two or more people. As well as the emotional autoconciencia is an important element in the potentiation of the abilities intrapersonales of the emotional intelligence, the empathy comes to be something like that as our social conscience, because through her the feelings and necessities of the other ones can be appraised, giving cause to the emotional warmth, the compromise, the affection and the sensibility. Let us see your importance.

The Social Radar

If on one hand, a deficit in our capacity of emotional autoconciencia takes us to be seen as illiterate emotional (illiterate in the "abc" of the recognition of the own emotions), an inadequacy in our ability empática is the result of an emotional deafness, because starting from it, they don't take in being evidenced you fail in our capacity to interpret the necessities of the other ones appropriately, those that underlie to the express feelings of people.

In and of itself the empathy is something like that as our social radar, which allow us to navigate with success in the own sea of our relationships. If we don't pay you carefulness, with surety we will mistake the direction and difficultly we will arrive to good port. Let us revise now thoroughly you are we useful in what.

Through the glasses of the other one

Not it is strange that you are believed to only understand to the other one based on what we note superficially. But the worst thing can come when confronting your position with ours and not to "see" beyond our own perspective and of the seemingly "patent" thing.

We should know that our you are related they not only base verbally on apparent contents, but rather many exist other mechanisms full with meaning that are always there and of those that we don't always know how to take out party. The posture, the shade or voice intensity, the look, an expression and even the same silence, all are carriers of great information that are always there, to be interpreted and to give you the suitable interpretation. In fact, we cannot read the minds, but yes many exist subtle signals, sometimes "invisible" apparently, which we should learn how to "read."

An individual empático can be described as an able person in reading the status while they take place, being adjusted to the same ones in agreement these requires it; to the knowledge that a status is not static, they take out profit of the feedback, all time that you/they know that ignoring the different signals that they receive it can be detrimental in your relationship. You are also somebody that have a good capacity of you hear, skillful in reading non verbal "tracks"; you know when to speak and when not, all that which facilitate you the road to influence and to regulate in a constructive way the emotions of the other ones, benefitting this way your interpersonal relationships. They can be good negotiators, oriented toward a scenario where all the parts come out winning.

On the other hand, weak people in this ability have difficulties to "read" and to interpret the emotions of the other ones correctly, they don't know how to hear, and many times are inefficient reading the non verbal signals, reason for which can evidence a social turpitude, when appearing as cold and wanton fellows. You are clear that the insensibility to the emotions of the other ones tunnels the interpersonal relationships. The individuals that manifest incompetence empática don't know how to read your social radar, I motivate for the one that .algunas times without intending it. they damage the emotional intimacy of those who try, because when not validating the feelings and emotions of the other one, this feels annoying, wounded or unknown.

In the extreme grade of the lack of this ability they are, on one hand, the alexitímicos (people unable to express the own feelings and of perceiving those of third appropriately) and, for the other one, the antisocial elements or the psychopaths who save little or any consideration for the other people's feelings and they can rather, in many cases, to manipulate them in own benefit.

Any relationship type, amical, marital, family or working, can you turn affected by this capacity. In fact, diverse investigations demonstrate that you are a main ability in many occupations, especially in those that have to do with the treatment to the public, the sales, the public relationships, the human resources, the management, to mention some. The certain thing is that your applications can be diverse, in the formation of leaders, in studios of identification of organizational necessities and/or of the market, in organizational consultancy, in psychotherapy, in medicine, among other. In all these are a crucial ability to reach the excellence.

Inside other shoes

Proceeding with empathy doesn't mean to agree with the other one. Not he/she involves to leave aside the own convictions and to assume as own that of the other one. You are more, you can be in complete detuning with somebody, without in and of itself to stop to be empáticos and to respect your position, accepting as genuine your own motivations.

Through the readout of the necessities of the other ones, we can readjust our to act and whenever we proceed with sincere interest you will rebound it in benefit of our personal relationships. But you are it something to what we should be attentive at every moment, because what work with a person doesn't necessarily work with other, or you are more, what work with a person in a moment cannot serve in another with the same one.

Mahatma Gandhi sustained "the fourth three parts of the miseries and bad experts at some time the following in the world they would end if people put on in the shoes of your opponents and they understood your point of view"; in coherence with it, he decided not to proceed with violence in your purpose to achieve the independence of your country, and against all prognosis the peaceful" "submitted that propelled was the decisive weapon in the attainment of the desired release of your homeland, India.Certainly we don't have to be as Gandhi to realize that subtle "weapons" that we can use in own benefit exist and of the other ones that you/they are not to destroy but to make flourish profitable relationships for the sake of our increment like human beings. Finally, you are not exaggerated to sustain that the bases of the same morality can be in the empathy, in the one which in turn the root of the altruism is (when being taken with integrity).

How to develop the empathy

Do you recognize the feelings of other people? Do you understand why the other ones feel this way? This is the ability of 'to feel with the other ones', of experiencing the emotions of the other ones as if was own.

When we develop the empathy (the fourth of the practical abilities of the Emotional Intelligence) the emotions of the other ones they resonate in us. We feel which the feelings of the other one are, how strong they are and what things they provoke them. This is difficult for some people, but on the other hand, for other, you are so plain that they can read the feelings just as if is about a book.

You are important here to make a distinction between the empathy and the sympathy. The sympathy is a process that allow to feel the emotional same states that feel the other ones, we understand them or not.

However, the sympathy is a purely emotional process that have with the empathy the same relationship that can have a box aftermake with the work of an artist. In the first, we can fill the correct spaces with the appropriate colors or the appropriate emotions, and to obtain an acceptable copy of the original, without necessity of understanding clearly what a you mean the box.

The empathy is something different: you involve our own emotions, and for that reason we understand the feelings of the other ones completely, because we feel them in our hearts besides understanding them with our minds. But also, and fundamentally, the empathy includes the understanding of the perspectives, pansies, desires and other people's beliefs.

The sympathy is a poor substitute of the empathy, although in some cases, in which people cannot feel empathy regarding some emotions, the sympathy is better than anything. However, to advance to the following stadium of the emotional conscience, true empathy is required.

To be highly a person empática can have your disadvantages. A person empática is very aware of an entire complex universe of emotional information, sometimes painful and intolerable that others don't perceive.

People that have empathy are much more adapted to the social subtle signals that indicate what others need or they want. This makes them better in such professions as the teaching, the sales and the management.

Virtual infidelity and your hazards

Internet has transformed into a new way of gestating loving relationships that, although they cannot involve the physical contact - at least initially -, they don't stop in and of itself to be extremely loaded with sexual content.

Indeed, the "cases" for Internet usually involve the same classes of pansies and emotions that any other relationship, that which include secrets, fantasies, enthusiasm, frustrations, negation, rationalization, etc., and in and of itself same you also have the potential of being devastating for other relationships them to stay at the same time.

A typical case

The typical case of many people in couple, is to happen more and more on-line time, with the purpose of having interactions that provide you a "outlet" of the daily reality.

With the time, the world of fantasy that show up in Internet can make you see to the true world as something monotonous and boring, in which are impossible to know the enormous quantity of intimacies that people can admit by means of Internet.

Once you are somebody interesting on-line, they enter the best side in your legal capacity, as well as they make it your parties. Both begin to share intimacies, hopes, fears, or fantasies, that which them Preposition even more, and you make the fantasies on the other person to be still more intense and deeper. Naturally, the love is born and with him a necessity every time bigger than actual interaction.

By the way, all these changes don't happen inadvertent for the respective ones even that begin to suspect or to want to know on the "friends" that have your husband / to in Internet. And although the cybernauts deny or rationalize your on-line activity, your couples begin to suspect every day more and to be threatened.

But these people continue ignoring, or directly denying, the impact that have all this in your couples. Anyway, these last begin to more thoroughly know the status and they are desolated and betrayed.

However, the cybernauts are safe that, as you have not had "true" sex, anything should import, but the certain thing is that they are even this way more near your virtual friends than of your own couple.

And a point arrives in the one that are irresistible to meet with the friend / to virtual in person, because these people feel that they have known your "partners of the soul", and that they seem book credit been made "the one for the other" one, for what would be worthwhile to imperil everything for them.

But the actual person is very different to the virtual one, and to the end of one short run you/he/she is patent that the relationship won't work. However, the life of these people has never changed a way imagined. And you are that since they stopped to pay carefulness to your actual couple, and the same one was stagnating, while that I magnify replacement for which you/they neither bet you have given fruits.

Some reflections

Creates or not, these cases are more common of what many believe, and without doubts they can be a terminus a quo to make general different observations.

In the first place, you would be good to know that all the virtual new connections are usually touching, but you are more than possible that are not in particular the person who make the difference. You happen that, although you are not perceived, the enthusiasm usually has more than to do with the relationship "class" that with the specific feelings that the actual person would generate.

But also, in all the new relationships, be or not for Internet, people enter the best side of itself, that which don't mean that indeed they are this way the whole time, in the daily life.

With too much frequency we think of the love like those vertiginous and intense feelings that take place in front of the dazzle, but although all this can be a fantastic test, much of the intensity of the feelings is simply inherent to the same novelty.

In fact, once a "dream" love should open the way to all the responsibilities of the daily life in a long term relationship, the feelings will follow the transition toward the proximate deepest stages in the love, or desparecerán. For that reason, to compare the feelings experienced in a new relationship with the feelings that stay with the couple of long time ago, you are as comparing apples with oranges.

As for the impact in the relationship with the married couple, you are very communio that these cybernauts underestimate in a start the relationship for Internet to consider that it cannot really be a case, since there not even is not involved sex. But often, these relationships also have the potential of being truly devastating for the couple, the same as if you double-crossed him to him with a sexual relationship.

In fact, most of people that he/she discover that your couples double-crossed them sexually with another person, don't feel so annoying for the sexual slip in yes but for the book credit fact been double-crossed and swindled in your good faith.

By the way, they are many those that think that one can only speak of double-cross when a total involved lie exists. But a more exact definition of an ullage of honesty in a relationship could be to "retain pertinent" information, that is to say to hide deliberately something to the couple, as the fact of being maintaining a very intimate relationship with some mediating person Internet. This will also create an emotional distance that will enter a problem difficult to expire.

Although you are not easy to suit in the definition of what could be a case for Internet, something that yes you are very clear you are that when a couple a wound or a threat, are for that you will be perceiving that you are in game something more than a bare entertainment. And when they injure the feelings, but this is ignored or underrated, you can be evidencing an ullage of care toward the couple that could be even much more pernicious that the virtual same relationship.

The certain thing is that the relationships for Internet in married people have many chances of causing a fissure or total destruction of the primary relationships, no matter how much that is not the original intention. And seeing it retrospectively, many people that your couples ended up having actual relationships with those people that knew virtually, recognize that they would putrefy or they would owe book credit known in what you/they entered, but that they were as dazzled by the novelty, although they didn't want to have a relationship neither to break your couple.

For that reason, if you are about beginning to maintain relationships in Internet, more than to wonder if that is correct, you should wonder if you are intelligent. In many opportunities, when searching something better for your lives, or a way to break up with the monotonicity, they can be very gratifying things, but in other cases it can still end with less.

This way, unless you is in a terminal crisis with the couple, the ideal thing to begin to revive the interior passion would be think the couple's aspects again, to determine other roads that could take to that both members of the same one feel better and more alive, but always rooted in the reality before in the virtualidad or the fantasy.

A beginning of virtual romance, you could serve then like a warning signal that they need to improve things in the own couple. This should be the focus of carefulness, knowing that any forfeiture that are experienced when a virtual relationship concludes, you are in fact the forfeiture of a fantasy, and not of something actual, contrary to a couple of years.

The hazards of the virtual infidelity

The ciberinfieles every time they are more, but the services that he/she offer the network to discover them also grow.

Eric has girlfriend, but a fond one is admitted to visit the chats to know new people. And although you swear to be in love with your girl, never ullage to your virtual appointments with your 'ciberconquistas.' "For me it is only a game. You have a good time me to know people for this mean. I believe that you really show yourself like you are, although you are who are not sincere. Not I believe that this means to be unfaithful", you admit.

The emergence of internet, your extents, as well as the anonimity and the privacy in which can be browsed have generated social interesting phenomena, and one of the most important is the one named 'ciberinfidelidad', a new term that mean to establish a relationship extramarital, in most of the cases without being involved physically with the umpire, although you are also who yes you take the relationship to the physical plan, and that you stay through electronic mails and instant messages.

This status has generated cybernetic new services, among those that the compound numbers stand out 'virtual detectives', for cachar to the infidel and, on the other hand, other agencies that you/they offer alibis so that the infidels are not discovered
In accordance with experts in the matter, the network is a mean that facilitate to double-cross the couple. This scans it to depth the French publication In bed with the Web: Internet, him nouvel adulterates (In the bed with the web: Internet, the new criminal conversation), written by Loic Roche and Yannick Chatelain, in which are also exposed that more and more French they succumb to the virtual relationships.

The first of the authors are a physician in psychology and expert in the impact of the new technologies in the man, the second an expert in the network.

Both highlight that forums and chats are visited mainly by men. Although also for women like Carolina who although you have couple, from time to time visit the chats for 'to check' the creativity of the males. "In the personal thing I like chatear with unknown because both have that to toss to walk the genius when courting. You are from to the most romantic type until to the most flattering. In an occasion I was about to do me with somebody with who took already months chateando, but later I thought that the interesting of the relationship is that he is ignored for me, so I preferred to maintain this way" it, you admitted.
According to the writers, when being wired to internet is "very plain to establish virtual (most of the times under a dummy identity) relationships, a state of permanent search is believed and of dependence."

To know different people through the network has transformed into a lifestyle, because you "give the illusion afrodisíaca of being almighty, you are something similar to what happen with the alcohol in the parties of adolescents, it works as a desinhibidor", Loic Roche says.

The hazards of the virtual infidelity (you leave II)

In love cybernetic:

The consequences of this phenomenon are countless and many even unsuspected. In the tribunals of United States, for example, the electronic infidelity is already a causal of divorce.

And you are that for the victims of the double-cross, you are not so complicated to check the 'cybernetic criminal conversation', because you are easy to procure copies of the mails that swap those 'ciberamantes.'

In France, like in many other countries, every day 25 thousand new people register in Meetic, the biggest place of encounters in Europe that count with more than of 11 million members.

More investigations

Other publications like that of the American siquiatra Esther Gwinnell, titled The love in internet, outlines that the love among cybernauts has the inducement of helping an individual to overcome the solitude.

Nevertheless, the author also exposes the pathologies, conflicts and risks to those that face people that chatean, because in the network they traffic all type of specimens.

"From donjuanes and accomplished chameleons, until hermits, shy, obsesos and mythomaniac professionals, so an online relationship could complicate enough the life", concludes.

New services

As consequence of this phenomenon, in the Internet services have also been created that offer 'to cover' the infidelities for not running the risk of being more communio descubiertoLo are to receive by mail or for telephone an invitation to a congress, correspondent to the house or company, confirming the care to this event.

It can even be organized a loving encounter that seem a labor subject.

The other side of the currency is those 'virtual detectives' whose number every day you grow who are contracted by husbands and jealous wives to investigate your couple's cybernetic activities and to investigate about your secret desires and hidden perversions... for not mentioning the existence of a relationship in form.

Healthy and happy children

Which are the alcoholatura good treatments that a boy needs to grow healthy and felíz?

Before anything else, we will make reference to the term "good treatments" used in the header. For many professionals that work exactly with children or mistreated people, ésto means that the children ean respected as legal persons anyone are your singularity. This involves to provide you cares physiques, power supply, health care, coat, among other; and taken care pscioafectivos, fondness unconditional respect of your person condition. You are also very important the or the educational contributions, so that they learn how to modulate your emotions, desires and behaviors to be respected themselves and your fellow men, including to all the alive other beings and the nature in general. Lastly, in the notion of good treatments the contributions should be included for a healthy and responsible socialization, that is to say that the children have the elements to build your personal histories or your identity, starting from the family, cultural and social reports surrendered in truthful and participatory conversations with the adults and pairs of your family, of your community and of your society.

To facilitate that the children have it doesn't only make aware of your histories of life but also of the reality that have played you to live, and so that they can commit with others in the change of this reality if you are unjust, violent and oppressive; you are completely fundamental a process of healthy socialization. This resides in assuring, as cmunidad, protection to the children in case your families, in the institutions or in the society they are confromtados to status of violence. the good treatments are mainly the result of a social production, not only family, but the effort that the whole community should make for the childhood.

During the period of gestation, as well as after the childbirth, the woman segregates a hormone: oxytocin that help to the attachment of your link with the baby, as well as the emotional protection that are also generated starting from her. Unfortunately, the effect of the oxytocin is influenced by the social and cultural contexts; and mainly, for the test of the mothers' life.

A mother with a childhood traumatized by bad treatments, for example, or that that your maternity lives downloads status of violence, in spite of the oxytocin, you will have difficulties in attaching to your son healthily, with the necessary empathy to assure you the good treatment that deserve. The men also have hormones, as the vasopresina that he/she explain the innate capacity to take care and to protect the children; but you seem to be that this hormone is terribly vulnerable to the ideological elements of the patriarchal culture that, with your beliefs and myths, you reduce the man to a condition of dominant, competitive and, many times, abusive and I force. Fortunately, little by little the ho, decent bres is involved more and more in the cares of your children and the emotions and the fondness lose fear.

You are certain indicators of a relationship of good treatments with the children. For example, mothers and parents that offer your children a safe attachment and they react with empathy in front of the lawsuits of satisfaction of your necessities, but at the same time they maintain the necessary authority to protect them and to educate them. another factor is when the demonstrations of affection and fondness live with pleasure; as well as when you move you to verify the efforts that he/she make the boy to advance in your development. When they are sensitive to your emotional sufriemiento and they know your son in toto, either in likes, interests, friends or customs. And, lastly, your children have a momentous importance in your lives, and for that reason soncapaces of respecting your differentiation processes, accompanying them in all the avatars of roundtrips that it enter the development process.

What is Love

Did a group of professionals ask to several children, with ages from 4 to 8 years, what does it mean love? and the obtained answers were more comprehensive and deeper of it than anyone it could imagine:

"Love is the first feeling that there is before all the bad things
appear"

"When my granny began to suffer arthritis I/you/he/she could not put on makeup the nails
of the feet; so my grandfather still put on makeup them the whole time when
he/she began to suffer arthritis in their hands, that is love."

"When somebody loves you, the form in that that person says your Name is
different. You know that your Name is safe in its mouth"

"Love is when a girl puts on odorant and a boy puts on
colony, they leave together and they are smelled mutually."

"The love is when you go out with somebody to eat and you give him/her most of your
potatoes to the French without making that other person to give you of his."

"Love is when somebody harms you, you get angry a lot, but you don't scream him/her
because you know that that will hurt their feelings."

"Once my bigger sister made sick, she was filled all her body of
ronchitas, and their boyfriend came every day to see it and he didn't scare
to get sick, he caressed her in the nights in their bed until he/she fell asleep
and then he/she left, that is love."

"Love is what makes you smile when you are tired."

"Love is when my mom makes brown for my dad and her you/he/she proves a little bit
first before being given it, to be safe that he/she knows well."

"Love is when you kiss the whole time, then you get tired of kissing, but still
you want to be next to that person and then they speak to each other more."

On the other hand, in the man's relationships with their mean, the love can mean an or more than one of the following manifestations of the love, all them related in general ledger or pettier grade. For example:

1. Filial love: between parents and children (for extension among ancestros and descending).
2. Fraternal love: in their strict sense it is the affection among siblings although he/she expands to other excepted relatives the parents and adults, the fraternal love is born from a deep feeling of gratitude and recognition to the family, for emotions that they point to the coexistence, the collaboration and each fellow's identification inside a relationship estrucutura, the same thing that the filial love, the fraternal one is heightened since it is founded in the interdiction of the incest.
3. Fraternal love toward the friends: he/she is born of the man's necessity of socializing.
4. Romantic love: he/she is born in the expectation that a near human being fills to one of satisfaction and existential happiness. This feeling idealizes in certain grade to the person object of this expectation, defined in the psyche.
5. Sexual (desire) love.
6. Love to the neighbor: he/she is born of the use of the ability of the empatizar mind and to tolerate.
7. Love to the animals: he/she is born in the necessity of feeling protective of the animals.
8. Love toward something abstract or inanimate: an idea, a goal, to the homeland (patriotism) or the birthplace, to the honor and the independence (integrity).
9. Love to the starts: it depends on the application of a standard or rule that it is "loved." For example, the love at the beginning of helping to the weak one, to the standard of if / not to make with other that that if / we don't want them to make us, etc..
10. Love toward a god or a deity (devotion): He/she is usually born in the received education from the childhood. It considers to God like the font of all love and it is based on the Faith. In most of the cases, it is considered that after the death God it would reward from some way to people that the corresponding religion considers virtuosos.
11. Love autopersonal.
12. Platonic love.
13. General Purpose Love: the one that all the people can end up feeling for the natural mean and that the big mystics experience as Nirvana.

What seems to bind all these types of love is the desire conciente or inconciente toward somebody or something or the realization of their objectives.
Some languages, as the old Greek, distinguish among the different senses of the love better than Spanish. For example, in Greek old the words filia exist, eros, banquet and storge, which mean love among friends, romantic or sexual love, unconditional love and affective or family love respectively, or in Latin cupiditas like corresponding to the Greek eros (I want sexual) and faces like corresponding to the Greek banquet (empathy, altruísmo). However, so much in Greek as in many other languages, historically it has been very difficult to separate the meanings of these words in toto, for what is possible to find the word banquet (unconditional love) being used with the same meaning that eros (sexual or romantic love). However, some vulgar terminologies in Spanish as for example edge, originated of 'filia, generates hierarchies of seriousness or duration of the couple.