Fetiches and sadism and masochism

Conoco fetish
Almost all objects can be sexual fetish. Some, like the long black gloves, are very common, while others, such as hats women, are rare. A fetish literary classic is the fur coat, which became famous for the book by German writer von Sacher-Masoch (where the word "masochism") Venus in Furs (Venus dressed in skins).

It describes his fantasy of being dominated and whipped by a woman covered only by a fur coat. Even being so well known, there are few people who have this fantasy.

Sadism and masochism
Many rubber fetishists are devotees of what they call technically urolagnia. In these cases are used to different types of rain suits, as chubasqueros blacks and bright. Social mind, clubs focusing on interest in the skin that appear are more frequent than those organized around the rubber.

In northern Europe and the United States, the leather bars homosexuals are a phenomenon known. In general, fetishists heterosexuals seem to have more problems than homosexuals when it comes to finding mates or establish contacts with people who think alike, having to settle for the sexual fantasies and masturbation.

When he does not want sex and you die of desire!

If your bonbon was recently excites more with a football match that with your new underwear, may have a downturn sex is a very common problem, and often, this discrepancy in the level of desire can make women feel stressed and up to ask if your partner still considers desirable.

Here you have what it is and of course, how to overcome this issue ...

One of the most important points is that through the media either film, television and others, always shows the man as he is constantly in heat, wanting sex and others. This is totally wrong, because libido is influenced by a series of psychophysical factors, it can change from day to night, from month to month and from year to year. For men, there are many reasons for not wanting to make love to women. So, if ever your partner does not feel like, take it in a natural way, not you feel responsible for that decision.

Another important point is that after some time has passed since the relationship, the urgency for having sex may be diminished, which is also very normal.

However, what it would be worrying is that there is an obvious disparity in the level of desire, for example, that he wants to make love less than half the time as you. In this case it'll have to investigate the causes for which has decreased their interest.

To know that it may be happening in bed, you must first begin to investigate who is going beyond. It should be borne in mind that anything that raises their nervousness, automatically reduces their libido, as the physiology of sex, requires a deep relaxation. Therefore, if your man is concerned about anything, his body never reach the level of tension required to have sex.

You must also bear in mind that a certain class of medicines such as antidepressants, can make your partner has less desire than usual. Or a decline in the level of tetosterona, which is rare, but entirely possible.

In order to deal with all this, and also raise their libido, when you talk to him about this issue, Save the allegations and comments with double meaning, since undoubtedly greatly complicated the situation further. Indeed, he probably aware that you are not satisfied with his performance in bed, put on guard and the third world war breaks out! Or worse still, become depressed more! We must take subtle techniques such as massage to relax and talk or power there seize the moment so you do not feel that it has no geese. You must pay attention to the times of day when he usually has more desire, it is also important, as if it is given the pattern that you can now relax because they're comfortable. Ábrete their suggestions, if he has not fantasies and urges contártelas. And of course, muéstrate ready.

Sexual fantasy and its consequences

The sexual fantasies are a lot of fun, especially if you wait a long time for implementation! But essometimes ... leave sequels.

The fantasies are those that form the basis of masturbation and that they can turn sex with a partner. Anyway, after all this is done again and again, often losing their thanks. Even the fact realize a fantasy, you can stop disappointment to those who possessed, making it feel empty and ugly.

This is particularly true for those fantasies involving violent or anonymous encounters, especially when it comes to more than one person involved in the relationship. So in this way, many women for example, have come to lose their libido, which probably constitutes a severe punishment that unconsciously infligés aux this person to act in what at some level, it seems bad or dirty.

If the results of the experiment are dire, at least in the short term, first must think well what you realize that motivó a fantasy, of what needs will be dispensed.

Discover creative ways satisfactory and that not only bring admiration, but they do feel good with himself who has a fantasy of this kind, is essential. Just as it is essential that this desire is realized, but in a way that makes a person feel good.

The feminine best sexual fantasies

1.- To have practical sexual that would be never able to take to the reality. This includes any thing practically, and you confirm the character liberador, lúdico that have the erotic fantasies. The women have this type of fantasy in more measure that the men. 28% of them gets excited this way.

2.- To that fantasy he/she continues to have you sex with a stranger. One of each five women (21%) fantasizes this way. In occasions it is about somebody well-known of the immediate environment of the dreamer one. But most of the times is somebody seen down the street few times, in the work, or in any quotidian other environment.

3.- 19% of the women, mainly the youngest, fantasize with which they are indebted to have sexual relationships for well-known or unknown. You are about fantasies, of getting excited by means of facts that can give illness for the status created to your surroundings (to be defenseless before the other one can be excitant for very resolutory many people in the actual life), but that doesn't involve a desire, neither direct neither constructive, of being violated or of causing violations.

4.- With more than a person of the opposite sex it occupies the fantasy of 18% of the women. And you are part of that necessity of imagining status that, probably, they would not be able to carry out in the actual life.

5.- A number bigger than heterosexual women that fantasize with having sexual relationships with somebody of the same sex of men: 11%. This happens this way because the women receive the same taste culturally that the men for the feminine beauty and they are able to admire her without mufflers homófobos.

6.- Finally, the fantasy that occupy the last place among the women is the one of forcing somebody to have sexual relationships without your consent or with a forced consent. This fantasy occupies to 3% of the women. You appear with less frequency that in the men, in fact for that general pattern of fantasizing feminine that suppose you turn as receptoras of the sexual activity exercised by others. In that context, to force third people to make something is almost outside of place, because you would demand to be more enabled than receptive.

Pedofilia

The pedofilia, sometimes called also efebofilia, supposes the obtaining of the unique and exclusively mediating orgasm the use of the children, of prepúberes (efebos) or of boys recently entered in the puberty. Naturally, they can be used for it the same children that girls. The pedofilia is a sexual abnormality very broadcasted in almost all the civilizations. The aesthetic and sexual attraction that he/she wake up the boy and numerous fellows is so much more curious all that have been insisted in the boy's sexuality for thousands of years, to which have been considered as a being without sex and almost sacred. In primitive many towns, the boy has a positive condition of sexual toy.

In the amyoría of the chaos, the pedofilia takes possession of the adult in surprising form. Diverse investigators have affirmed that certain professions are latently pedofílicas (educators, teachers, personnel staff of having confined, etc.), being based on the theory of the psicopatología of the professional election. In this case, you would be about a motivation pedofílica.

The lawsuit of this abnormality possibly resides well in a serious complex of inferiority, well in an accused infantilism psicosexual. You are adults that fear the sexual normal relationships because, for a feeling of organic or psychic minusvalía, they are unable to carry out it in a satisfactory way. Then, if they don't have enough the offset masturbatoria, they should choose a sex partner that exclude in if the sexual normal relationship, and this couple can only be a boy, in a great legal age d ecasos. You are the typical physique of the friend of the children, always willing to dispense goodies to anyone of them. All city that count with more than a million inhabitants he/she has your infantile secret prostitution, generally formed by small ochicas something faulty, psychopaths or of social tiny levels. During the wars there is an enormous increment of the infantile prostitution. Children are also used with ends of blackmail.

Generally, the pedófilos is searched themselves in the image of the children or they seek to revive a scene from the infantile sexuality to which you/they were more or less fixed. In many cases of pedofilia it can be discovered the existence of a trauma that subsist through some obsessive fantasies that push to the subject one to be released of the same one by means of your repetition. i keeps in mind that said, we will be able to understand why the pedófilos runs after an infantile test and the reason that these acts are sometimes carried out in a compulsive way. Some pedófilos enters in occasions epileptic crisis. Those that leave in your abnormality of a serious inferiridad complex, sebre all type psicosexual, they come closer to the children because the inexperience and little capacity of defense of these excite you, at least them desinhibe before the expression sexula waived in a normal relationship.

Sometimes, the pedófilos wants to control your abnormality becoming the children's enemies, even arriving to criminal activities with infantile victims. Each pedófilo shows a special preference had determined ages. This way, some are only attracted by children between 5 and 10 years; other on the other hand, the prefierem in plenum age prepubertal (between 10 and 14 years). To these they are also called efebófilos.