Sexual fantasy and its consequences

The sexual fantasies are a lot of fun, especially if you wait a long time for implementation! But essometimes ... leave sequels.

The fantasies are those that form the basis of masturbation and that they can turn sex with a partner. Anyway, after all this is done again and again, often losing their thanks. Even the fact realize a fantasy, you can stop disappointment to those who possessed, making it feel empty and ugly.

This is particularly true for those fantasies involving violent or anonymous encounters, especially when it comes to more than one person involved in the relationship. So in this way, many women for example, have come to lose their libido, which probably constitutes a severe punishment that unconsciously infligés aux this person to act in what at some level, it seems bad or dirty.

If the results of the experiment are dire, at least in the short term, first must think well what you realize that motivó a fantasy, of what needs will be dispensed.

Discover creative ways satisfactory and that not only bring admiration, but they do feel good with himself who has a fantasy of this kind, is essential. Just as it is essential that this desire is realized, but in a way that makes a person feel good.

Sex with animals - Zoofilia

You are named zoofilia to the exclusive obtaining of the orgasm by means of the use of animals. The authentic zoófilos doesn't find satisfaction with the sexual normal relationships, being most of them men and feme sole, of mature age, although you are sometimes given in adolescents and children, but like occasional and spurious form. In many cases it is about the expression of an aimless great fondness that notice with animals.

The following lawsuits are managed for the appearance of the zoofilia: the primitivism of the conditions of life; the extraordinary familiarity that exist between the man and the domestic animal, mainly in rural means; and the popular flow of diverse belief as for example, the superstition based on the effect of the sexual intercourse with animals as therapy of venereal illnesses.

Not all the animals enjoy the same sympathy on the part of the zoófilos. In hierarchy zoófilica it is, in the first place, the cow; then they follow the goats, the calves, the dogs, the mares, the pigs and the sheep. They also figure the geese, hens and doves. But sometimes, the naimales acts of unchaining of an intense zoofilia.

Among the lawsuits of the zoofilia they can make an appointment the compulsive necessity of sexual satisfaction, in circumstances in that only the fellow can instrumentally to be served as the animal, or a sexual intense satisfaction and, finally, a variance necessity in the erotic stimuli by means of an excitation specifically morbid.

The cure of this sexual abnormality, you should drive her to the psychiatrist or psychologist, with your therapeutical specific methods. You would also help a sexual efficient pedagogy and a social good prevention in the underdeveloped environments of the agricultural sector. On the other hand, you are to give to know the exact sense that the animal ones make in the world and the absurd thing that you are to overvalue them excessively, sometimes in detriment of the respect to the human dignity to that other people are entitled for the mere fact of being it.

Cure thanks to the Sex

They have been carried out scientific investigations, and you were discovered that the sex has many estates.
Here this the list with the 10 popiedades but important:

* To win energy
The sex is a form of physical financial year. To have relationships sexual three times per week allows to burn many calories and to stay in form throughout the year. They assure that you are equivalent to run 120 kilometers.

* To increase the oxygenation
The sex increases the oxygen contribution to the cells and you boost the activity of several organs and systems inside the body.

* To reduce the cholesterol
The sex balances the balance between the good cholesterol and the bad one and at the same time he/she reduces the excess of cholesterol in the body.

* You reduce the appearance of pains
Some studios indicate that maintaining sex reduces the headaches and the pains in general.

* You protect to the prostate
You are known that the disorders prostáticos are caused or they worsen as a result of the secretions of the gland. The sexual activity to regulate deletes those secretions. Anyway, a sudden change in the frequency can cause disorders related with the prostate.

* You diminish the stress
The satisfaction and relaxation that it produce the sex are beneficial for the mind and the circulatory system.

* You raise the marital happiness
The love and the affection can increase the oxytocin level, a hormone that raise the sexual desire. An oxytocin high-level can increase the frequency of sexual encounters in a couple.

* You raise the hormonal secretion
The sex is an inducement, especially for the women. The sexual regular relationships increase the level of female hormones that you/they reduce the risk of illnesses of the heart and of the vaginal tract.

* You increase the physical energy
The physical financial year, in anyone in your ways, raises the levels of the male hormone, testosterone, in the body. The experts say that this hormone strengthens the muscles and bones of the human body.

* You provide a hormonal supplement
During the sexual relationships, the called hormone DHEA is segregated in the body. During the orgasms or I joust before the ejaculation, the level of DHEA in the blood is five times general ledger to the normal thing. This steroid segregated by the adrenal cortex is the main generator of androgens in the women. You are also present in the males.

The gods of the voodoo

The history of the voodoo is flanked of a great mystery. When we speak of voodoo, him first that we are come to mind they are the sacrifices bloody, ritual manipulators of people, puppets punctured with alfilarias, zombies, possessions and states of you trade. Beyond the means or the ends that this religion of roots African persigam here interests us to deepen on your vault of gods, calls laud. Because, you are through them that we will be able to know your approach of the life and the death well. This way, the deities in the voodoo, include old and beneficent spirits that are guardian d moral ela and the ethical starts. And also, we are with you laud more aggressive and more malicious that belong to the dark side. However, most is dual, that is to say, they possess the well and the bad. The faithful of this religion adore to you laud them with the purpose of obtaining your physical attributes, your energy, and powers to act in the life. Not anyone can be possessed, for you are required it a don and a special learning.

The Vault of you Laud you are compound for:

Marrassa: They are the divine twins, the incarnation of the elementary and dual forces of the universe. They also symbolize, the balance, the drive and the harmony.

Baron Samedi: You are the one you laud of the death, together with us other incarnations. You describe it to him carrying a top hat, a black suit, black glasses and cotton plugs in the holes of the naríz, as the enterradores of dead. Your head is a skull and wait in the crossings of roads, where they pass the souls of the deads. You are also a sexual god, often represented by phallic symbols and characterized by your obscene and sinister legal capacity. You are also the god of the love and the resuscitation.

Legba: You are the physique among the visible and invisible worlds. You are always the first and the last spirit invoked in any ceremony vudú, because your authorization is necessary for any communication among the humans and you laud them. In general, you appear as an old man with crutch or with a cane, straw hat and a pipe. Who are possessed they act as old people and your members you weak and gnarled tornan.

Ghede: You are recognized as a low man and of dark skin, with a hat in the head and a cigarette in the mouth. You are the god of the death and of the uertos. Not it respects anything and you laugh at the fear of the humans. Who are possessed by Ghede you increase your intelligence, the negociation abilities and they become more resistant to the pain.

Damballah: You are the boss of you laud them, a snake that creó the world and the gods. You have many aspects. Who are peseídos, they increase your intelligence and they obtain your knowledge. Sometimes, you offer your wisdom through metaphors and riddles.

Erzulie: You are a feminine deity, goddess of the beauty, of the love and of the fertility. In your positive aspect it shows sweetness, affection and sensuality. In your dark side, you are jealous, lowbred and you are shown like a wounded woman that sustain a boy in way protector in a hand and in the other one a knife. Due to your great power, you are feared so much as dear.

Exhibitionism

This sexual abnormality, is defined like a search of the orgasm by means of the exhibition of the genital organs or of other body parts considered traditionally as shameful. You are characterized by a simultaneous association of modest fear and visual pleasure. The pure and bare exhibition, doesn't reach to characterize the abnormality exhibitionist, since the consistent pleasure when being contemplated sexually is important and elementary part of the preliminary pleasure, in the normal individual, regarding the diverse ones excitant natural of the sexual act. On the other hand, in the exhibitionism, you are a misalignment of the sexual interest fundamentally of the erotic complete act, being only centered at once partial of teaching the sex organs.

You are also important at once exhibitionist that the occasional witnesses get scared, or show certain excitation or edginess before the exhibition, since otherwise, if they are shown indifferent for example, they stop to be excitant stimuli for the exhibicinista. In fact, what the exhibitionist seeks is to excite the sexuality of other mediating one the show of your own sexuality, symbolized in this act by the genital organs. Naturally this individual attempts an erotic objective when being exhibited, in and of itself he makes it before witnesses although they are occasional, but this objective, is fully impersonal, anonymous and generic. This public, to say this way it, of the exhibitionist, consists on a woman or in the women in general, the girls and boys and children. You can, nevertheless, to exist a certain acuity under the conditions that the exhibitionist demands for your public. For example, you sometimes require certain type of women, rather religious or innocent, or women praying in a church. Therefore there is a contrast necessity between the moral insult or the animality of the act and the character cigar, almost sacred and forbidden of the object.

Now then, the public preferred by the exhibicinista is generally the infantile one, children or girls. The conditions that this public enters are good for those exhibitionists in those that the fear of the punishment is stronger than your erotic desire. for ésto they search this class of inferior witnesses as last petition, since it is about a public of little height and defenseless, without moral conscience and without understanding of the sexual thing. You tata therefore, of a public more or less liability and I propitiate to the shows. This impersonal public, is erotically the symbolic resume of the conditions more excitant or more favorable to the obtaining of the orgasm without hazard, condicines that fail in the election of a concrete individual that the exhibitionist chose as witness of your act and like sexual singular object.

The exhibitionist is almost always a man and, therefore, you exhibit the penis. The cases of feminine exhibitionism are strange and not very characteristic, and if they are given, they generally consist on due acts to a mental deficiency or an economic extreme penury that it push a woman to be exhibited like claim of a later prostitution. Also, in the feminine exhibitionism the chests, the stomach or the buttocks are generally exhibited, but hardly ever the vulva.

Erotic dreams - the most common symbols

Next, we will detail the symbols and the most common status that you/they appear in the dreams. They are striped for alphabetical órden to facilitate your readout.

You remember whenever the meaning that here give you, you are general, for that that, since all dream refers in particular to the life of a person, you should be reinterpreted according to the context peculiar of each individual.

Sexual act, to have relationships in the dream: When one dreams that you have a sexual act I get same or with another person, this event it should not be simplified in the carnal mere union. In fact these dreams involve the psychological union, the psychic integration with what the person that appear in the dream means for us at level incinsciente and in the actual life. On the other hand, he/she can also have, a compensatory commission. This way, a person that don't have sexual relationships habitually, usually dreams more often of them, like a form of downloading your libido. The important thing will be the way in which this relationship has place and if you take place or non satisfaction. The relationships with people of the same sex don't speak of the supposed ho9mosexualidad of the dreaming one, but of a bigger integration I get same, or, of the lump-sum appropriation of the person's features with which unite in the report onírico.

Criminal conversation: You could be index that the fellow is unsatisfied with the sexual life that take with your couple, as well as of pent-up desires that he cannot manifest or to carry out with her. If you are your couple who make the criminal conversation in the dream, this could manifest doubts on the own capacity to receive love or to produce desire in the other one.

Hair, hair or corporal body hair, your drop or increment: The hair simbioliza the vital force, the energy with which count the person and your specific, more spiritual or higher, or more sexual and more primitive meaning, should understand each other according to the type and the color of the hair. This way, the soft one and blonde represents the individual's spirituality, while the black abundant hair or the corporal body hair have bigger relationship with the most primitive or sexual aspects. To dream of the cut or the drop of the hair, therefore, you suppose a physical or spiritual aggression that the person suffers and you are index of forfeiture of vitality and energy.

Nakedness, to feel shame of being naked: Against what can seem, he/she doesn't have a meaning sexual intríncecamente. As they are the features of the nude in the dream, it can indicate a status of innocence, purity and even, of idefensión; or bienj, to have a more erotic character and lewd.

Teeth: They are very common in the dreams and nightmares in those that lose the teeth, have them slack or they are fallen. The teeth, the same as the hair, they represent the energy and the vitality, auqnue shows a sexual and aggressive bigger imposition that the hair. This fear is related with the fear to the castration of the sex organs or the forfeiture of sexual vitality in general. Also, indefensión since the teeth are a you arm primitive of attack.

Jealousies: The jealousies and the envy that can feel regarding somebody in the dreams, speak to each other of the sensation of debility of the dreaming one regarding the love that receive, and you are a signal of drop you deem and of insecurity in oneself.

To make love in public: To dream that one makes love in some public place, you indicate a strong necessity to express the sexuality. If such an act causes shame, it can be pointing out fear to that our sexual desires are known.

Impotence: You not only mean sexually fear to be incompetent, but rather a deeper and more general fear, the one of losing to be able to and vitality or energy.

Orgy: The fact of dreaming that one participates in an orgy, indicates that you are very dissenting with your sexual life and that this needs an important change. If one is in couple, you are index clear of dissatisfaction.

You punish: The meaning is opposed, as you are man or woman. If you are a man, you indicate doubts regarding your sexuality or conflicts in this aspect. If you are woman, on the contrary, you indicate a force and vitality sexual notables.

Nipple: Since the breasts are related with the maternity, if you are a man who dream of nipples, you will reflect the contact desire with the mother while if you are a woman, a possible pregnancy or eldeseo of being pregnant.

Narcissism

The narcissism consists essentially in that the individual, boy, adolescent or sdulto, experience a sexual attraction toward itself, you be for your body, for the image of itself, or for your global legal capacity. This attraction is not only translated to the field of the same sexuality, but rather you arrive likewise at the emotional level, to the fondness and a passionate admiration of oneself. Undoubtedly it is since about a sexual" "perversion in these cases the reactions of character genital they prevail: the ipsación, preferably is high at the level of the sexual act in the one that the narcisista is your own couple.

The term "narcissism" has your origin in the Greek myth of Narcissus, son of the god-river Cefiso and of Liriope, of which fell in love the nymph beocia Echo. Narcissus rejected the loving claims of Echo for what this fell in a state of melancholic desperation. Consumed of pain, your body was decreasing and withering until he didn't have left more than the voice. But you were not without punishment the indifferent sonerbia of Narcissus. Aphrodite took charge of avenging the offense inferred your servant. This way, once Narcissus was of hunt in Helicón, impelled by the thirst you hurtled from downwards to the floor to drink of the water of a crystalline font in whose clear surface was reflected your own physique. Aphrodite, the goddess of the Love, made that Narcissus fell in love with your own body taken place in the mirror of the waters, and as the object of your love it was unreachable, you finished wasting away of pain as the hapless Echo. When trying to hug your own image reflected in the river, you died drowned transforming into flower that continued being contemplated in the mirror that those formed on the edge of the waters: this flower called you narcissus.

The origin of this sexopatía is very remote; you even have some normal roots in the childhood and in the adolescence. The infantile narcissism can be considered like a normal fae in the individual's evolution, phase in which don't exist a sexual authentic differentiation clearly. The boy only worries about itself, you are considered as the axis of the family and of your environment, and you delight in itself being granted any whim indulgently. Your capacity of love is even corrupted by a brutally possessive selfishness and in fact it can be said that are only loved itself. Through your apprehension, intuitive still, of the objects of the reality, in this phase prelógica and emotionally boosted of the childhood, the boy is searched itself in the things of the environment, you are identified with them, due to kind of an instinctive self-centeredness. When the boy goes growing apparent among those that surround you, a less possessive affectivity that before and you begin to choose to somebody like fundamental object of your predilection. But your first loves still conserve an egocentric strong hue: you want to be loved, favorite with regard to the other ones.

The adolescent doesn't worry too much of the other ones because you are even closed in itself, (self-absorbed) neither you worry excessively about the sexual relationships. Therefore he/she is devoted to your own body in an excessive way. The adolescent ipsación becomes this phase in a to "enjoy itself." Even, some relationships or homosexual contacts of this time are explained po a compensatory narcissism in the one that the adolescent's image that such a relationship behaves, is not more than an image of itself. This absolutely instrumental relationship is not another thing that an ipsación.

Now then, until here it is something normal, but the adult's narcissism is not it so much. The mature narcissism is composed of the same elements that you/they appear in the boy and in the adolescent. Therefore, when one gives in the mature individual, it cannot be about an infantile residual overcome and that you pervert the normal mature sexualiodad. Some adults are all your life fixed in an infantile stage or adolescent of your sexuality. You interest you little to arrive to the conquest of any sexual object outside of them and you are intensified your necessity of power and a carried to an extreme pride. Under these conditions of affective and sexual dissatisfaction the professional and social ambitions spread to substitute and to replace the pleasures and frustrated satisfactions. Now then, the narcissism transforms into pathologic when you fill most of the fellow's erotic-sexual life replacing the normal trend to the heterosexual relationship and being projected on your own individual.

Impotence - the masculine anerosia

Many times people confuse impotence with sterility, misleading thing since the masculine sterility is the incompetence of fecundating the woman although you are carried out the coitus, and the impotence is the impoibilidad of carrying out the same one. We should delimit that you are also, the male's incompetence of always conjugating all those precise elements that must allow the couple to reach the sexual maximum satisfaction, inside a to proceed natural, according to the human instinct and the generally granted lex naturale as valid.

The impotence is classified in: antecedent, the one that appear before being in stable couple; the perpetual one, that that don't disappear by itself with the course of the time; the absolute one, when the male cannot carry out the coitus with any woman; and the relative one, when the male can carry out the coitus with some women but not with all.

In turn, this can be partially or total. In this the erection ability fails in toto, being therefore impossible the coitus, since the penetration in the woman demands a maximum stiffness of the penis.

If the man feels the necessity of the sexual contact and from the first moment it lacks the erection, being shown impotent, easily he falls in a circle difficult to break, since a conditional reflection is believed and a dysfunction is set up that hinder the realization of these first contacts that, on the other hand, they are decisive, since they will mark inexorably, in a way dificl of changing, your sexual future. You are this the one that llamamaos functional impotence, since in certain circumstances the erection and the coitus are possible, in general it depends on the inhibition to that you/they give place the repression of sexual anomalous desires. You are generally almost always about neurotics that support a complex of inferiority, for sexual faulty education; ésto bears a fear to the failure that are translated in anguish. It can determine likewise, the appearance of partial impotence the existence of a loving scarce sensibility toward the couple, the perception of unpleasant odors, the repulsion taken place by aesthetic, and other bugs.

The phimosis in that the smallness of the frenum makes difficult the erection, is revealed in occasions as relative impotence.

In the partial impotences it exists, nevertheless, the erotic desire that are absent in a permanent way of the total impotences. And in occasions, the existence of this erotic desire, never satisfied, the one that make us confuse to these impotent ones in fact describing sexually you as superdotados. The erection that you/they achieve the impotent ones partial you are weak, the penis doesn't achieve the necessary swelling to cross the vaginal introitus and, in the face of this failure, this erection disappears in toto, disabling the coitus. In occasions, already when approaching to the woman, after the loving prelude, and still before any physical contact, the erection falls and the member returns to your state of flaccidity. Sometimes, although the input is usually made, even with a perfect erection, the ejaculation happens too quick, the coitus that don't satisfy concluding this way neither to the male neither your couple.

Scientists locate the "G Point"

A new mystery is about to disappear, the enigmatic and controversial trigger of the sexual feminine satisfaction, the G point. And you are that, according to a team of Italian investigators, it can be localized using the ultrasound.

So far, the medicine had not been able to locate this mysterious point, but these scientists assure in the New magazine Scientist that found an area of thicker tissue among the women that say to have orgasms.

The ultrasound was used to often measure the size and the form of the tissue that it are beyond the front wall of the vagina, considered the locus in quo is the point G. In nine of the women that affirmed reached book credit the vaginal orgasm, the tissues between the vagina and the urethra were on the average thicker than in the 11 remaining women.

The physician Jannini, boss of the investigation assured that: "For the first time, you are possible to determine with a bare, quick and cheap method if a woman has or not a G point."

Although far from settling the subject, the physician Tim Spector, of the Sacred Hospital Tomás from London, says that the thickest tissue could be, in fact, you leave of the clitoris, another extremely sensitive area.

Therefore, they will still be carried out but you prove to determine who are in the certain thing, but far from worrying about the existence of the mysterious point, the best thing, like you tell the sexologist Petra Boynton, you are to relax you and not to be centered neither to be obsessed with that concrete area, because they are ignored all the other ones.

Genital - Malformations and States BiSexuals

The constitution and the normal sex characteristics can in some occasions to suffer alterations of importance and to rebound in the person's development. These shortcomings, take place during the formation of the embryo and in them physical and functional stigmata of both sexes coexist, generally for the prevalence of one of them.

Inside the same ones we find:

The abnormalities vulvales.
Absence of the vulva can exist, for not being had developed, but this malformation generally goes accompanied by others that are incompatible with the life.

The feminine pseudo hermaphrodites.
They are women whose genital extraneous they offer characters viriloides, for a great increase of the clitoris that can look like a penis, with the biggest lips also enhanced of size and something soldered in the half line; they can even acquire the aspect of some bags to house the testicles.

The masculine pseudo hermaphrodites.
They constitute 90% of the extraneous malformations of the genital ones, because during the embryonal development, if they fail the male hormones, he/she stops the development of the male one and on the other hand the female continues being developed in spite of the failure of the ovarian hormones. They are men to mean to form that can have a rudimentary uterus or a vagina that he/she opens up under the penis. But they can also be hardly men with a penis developed and genital extraneous in finishing being formed and that they can look like a rudimentary vulva. It is about individuals that, in the moment to be born, they were browsed superficially and classified as girl, educating you as such. With the years they go to the gynecologist for their menstruation ullage, or to appear two tumoraciones in what you/they believe that they are the big lips, being about some not very developed testicles; or for their ullage of mammary development and even being believed women by their sexual longing of other women, since in fact their constitution, its true sex, is the masculine one and what has failed has only been the formation of the extraneous genital. These are the cases that, in a sensationalist way, the daily press classifies as of woman that has transformed into man, when in fact there has not been conversion.

The different malformations.
Among them they can be: not very developed vulvas; the hole of the anus that opens up in the vagina instead of making it in their habitual place; the urethra that can open up in the vagina in the woman or in the bag of the testicles in the man; the imperforación of the hymen; the vagina absence and of uterus, or the vagina absence and persistence of the uterus. Here they can show up different variants, but naturally, all they disable the gestation. The vagina absence constitutes 30% of the malformations vaginal vulvo and in most of the cases he/she accompanies of uterus absence and of ovaries; or at least these enter a development deficit.

The hermaphroditisms.
Of these the true ones are strange. It is about beings intersexuals, with genital combined. They have ovotestes, that is to say, half ovary and half testicle; or, a testicle and an ovary. If the extraneous genital are observed, they are of doubtful constitution, being able to find testicles in more form of lips, organ that you/they oscillate between the feminine clitoris and the masculine penis and all kinds of variants. The treatment should be inclined to favor the sex for which you/they figure entered and to which you/they have accommodated its psyche that is generally the feminine one, making in this possible case a sexual activity that for passive, it is fully feasible by means of a surgical intervention, being created an artificial vagina.

The sexual dilemmas that torment the couple

The sexual dilemmas that torment the couple

Lies, double-crosss, ullage of passion, forbidden desires are only some of the concerns that despair the man and the woman. What to make in front of these status

The ideal relationship between the man and the woman is the one that is built and it consolidates with solid and frank bases.

However, many times of the ideal thing to the actual thing there are abysmal distances. Many couples in the actual life cohabit flanked of dilemmas that in the sexual plan, they transform into a torture. Lies, double-crosss, it lacks of desire, lovers and forbidden desires mine to newspaper the couple's relationship.

The sexual problems require special carefulness and punctual answers.

In that sense, the British therapy Anne Hooper, scans some status in its book "Sex: you ask and answers" where he/she explains how to confront the couple's different dilemmas, according to pubic portal Univision.
Some of the cases are:

"I lied to my couple regarding my sexual" history.

If he/she plans to pass the remainder of their life with that person, it is advisable to "admit" for not feeling eternally guilty, although you can only evaluate the intensity of their blame feelings.

The absolute honesty will allow him/her to relax you and to know that its couple loves him and you/he/she accepts beyond her life loving passing.

Another topic to consider is if its couple judges it severely or you/he/she criticizes her sexual behavior: does he/she believe that it is worthwhile to be with somebody whose love parameters differ so much of his?

"My couple spends hours in the "chats" of internet and I believe that you/he/she maintains a virtual" romance.

The virtual relationships, consistent in the exchange of explicit messages accompanied by autosatisfacción, they can have an erotic high voltage. They are sometimes so actual and intense that people experience desires to be known, and some couples have separated or divorced by this reason. But many of these relationships are occasional and they only last some days or weeks.

Their couple needs to understand that when moving away from you you/he/she is mining the emotional increment and the communication that all couple requires. And you will have to capture and to satisfy her necessities, surprising her with a night exit, for example.

We "stop to maintain sexual relationships a while ago, and I am not safe of wanting to continue with the relationship."

If it accepts couple's psychotherapy or sexual therapy, it will feel that at least he/she has made a last effort to save the relationship. If once started the therapy wants to end the relationship, use the sessions to analyze its decision, and to speak with its couple regarding such a drastic determination.

It also exists the possibility that the therapy exercises a beneficent effect on you, and he/she makes him/her change opinion. It is worthwhile to make the test, although it is as last petition.

"The person with which I am he/she is a fabulous lover, but as couple it is a disaster."

The sex is hardly an apart from the prolonged relationships. Although it is extremely important during the first years, it spreads to occupy their true place with running of the time. It is maybe happening him/her that. If their couple doesn't appraise it or she has abusive behaviors, he will probably need to leave it for reedificar her self-esteem.

I am "42 years old and I am thinking of having relationships with a person of 22. I worry about the age" difference.

If to both they don't care the difference of years, the sexual relationship should not enter problems. They can learn the one of the other one very much and to pass amusing and fabulous moments while they learn.

Other thing is if the relationship is prolonged or it prospers: How will the different stages of the life live? The lifestyle that you want for its fourth decade of existence, is probably very different from the one that yearns its loving veinteañero. What will it happen in five years?

It is worthwhile to consider these issues before being linked emotionally.

We have been about improving our sexual life, but the flame seems to have been extinguished, although we still love" each other.

According to the psychologist Robert Sternberg, the loving relationships have three fundamental pillars: intimacy, passion and compromise. In the ideal relationship, these elements are present in parts you equalize. But the relationships don't necessarily have to be perfect and many of them can outlive without one of the pillars.

Among you they can have more than enough intimacy and compromise, to compensate that lack.Also, the fact that the initial flame has faded it doesn't imply that they should stop to make love completely.

I am "about to start a loving adventure, but I am afraid to be making an error."

The extra-married romances can have serious consequences. It seems positive to take a time to meditate on their decision. Imagine the worst result in the adventure and be about thinking how he/she would behave in that circumstance.

How would he/she feel if it lost their main relationship and all the things that accompany her, among other as their house so many? Would it seem him/her disastrous or is a price that is worthwhile to pay?

Also analyze the reasons that take it to an adventure: if they have to do with specific problems of their relationship, does he/she believe that it could be about solving them?
Anyway, it is only possible knowledge in retrospective if a loving adventure was an error or not.

Sexual Curiosities

30% of the Spanish youths points out that he/she only knows about sex what reads in the books and magazines. Other 30% procures its friends' data and 11%, of its parents.

Among a 8 and 10% of the queries that are carried out to Internet from Europe they take constructive the word sex. Such and like it points out a studio of the University of Pittsburg, only six years ago, 25% of the searches had some relationship with the sex; today, on the other hand, the favorite topics are the electronic commerce and those related with the services.
The women suffer more for love. The Italian therapist Walter Riso, attributes it "to the feminine biggest sensibility, but also to that the feminist revolution didn't take I get an affective revolution, the understanding on the part of the woman that it can be alone affectively and that he/she doesn't have to love to be carried out."

When the music speaks of loving relationships, the idea that prevails is that the woman gives and the man receives. But that is not everything: 83% of the feminine singers insists in that idea, in front of "only" 55% of the men.

90% of the German has faked an orgasm at some time, most of them to please its couple.

The labor schedule he/she reduces the possibilities to exit and to find the perfect man. So much that one of each three western adults from among 25 and 49 years he/she doesn't have couple.


Among the victims of the labor pursuit in Spain more women than men are counted. According to the report Cisneros on this topic, directed by Iñaki Piñuel, the pursuit originates before the worker's negative to waive in the face of the blackmail or the servility, or for claim of its labor rights, for envy or, simply, for sexism.

The women have more memory than the men, as it concludes a studio of the University of Florida. The report points out, also that they are specially skilled when remembering the names of people.

Of purchases. The Spaniards spend 68% of their budget in clothes, shoes and linen; 36,8% in leisure and 22,5% in cosmetics. They only dedicate to the saving 2,5% of their money.
. for the Network. 63% of those who buy in the network is women whose half age is of 45 years.

According to a work that Medical has published Journal, the risk of mortality can decrease in 50% among those males that enjoy a sexual active life.

In the Welsh city of Caerphily, 918 males from among 45 and 59 years they showed up voluntary to this pioneer experiences. All they were submitted to a medical complete checkup and an interview in the one that you/they were asked with all frequency maintained sexual relationships. The answer to these questions varied from never until every day.

Next, during ten years, the investigators analyzed the health and the cases of mortality in this group of men. When it concluded this period of investigation, the data gathered by these scientists were truly surprising.

The more discharge was the <> of the entrants, more probabilities had of being healthy and alive.

The oldest manuals about sexuality were written about 500 years ago in China.

The first sex-shop of the history settled in the German city of Flensburg in 1962. Thirty years later, the signature has 650 employees and a volume of businesses of 8.000 million pesetas currently a year.

The condoms king size (supertalla) are experiencing a boom of sales in many countries. One of each four men complains that he finds too tight condoms uncomfortable during the sexual activity.

In a survey carried out in the Institute Kinsey in 1990, in which a question was included with respect to the size of the penis, the males believed that the mean size was from "20 to 30 cm" while the women deemed that "less than 10." The correct fact is from 12 to 18 cm.

At least three women - an American, a Briton and an Australian - they maintain that they have had sexual relationships with infants of the external space.

The World Organization of the Health (OMS) called the carefulness in 1973 on the formation ullage it has more than enough people's sexuality enabled to run the educational programas. Their feature consisted on facilitating information, to offer therapies, to form educational and to advise where it was necessary. He/she should have their appearance in the services of maternal-infantile care, centers of family planning, of mental health and community health. Of the multitude of necessities and social lawsuits he/she is derived the necessary specialization of the sexólogo like: sexual consultant, expert in sexual pedagogy, expert in sexual therapy and investigator. As in our country there are not ruled studios of sexología, the societies sexológicas have gone imparting diverse formation paths.

"From where does the verb follar come?"
He/she comes from the word Latin follicare (to blow), come in turn of follis (bellows). Follicare has given to our tongue other words like folgar, to not work and it. The verb follar, in its origin, meant to play or to relax; later he/she passed to refer to the sexual act. To refer to the same thing we also use to fornicate, word that comes from fornices, the bridges under those that the Roman prostitutes used to locate awaiting clients.

The climaterio in the woman and in the man

Generally, around the 45 years he/she extinguishes the genital feature in the woman, entering in a stage, the menopause, in which the menstruation ceases and that it is the central phenomenon of a series of signs and glandular, circulatory, nervous and psychic origin symptoms that you/they appear concomitantly and that they draw the box that we know with the climaterio name in the woman This it in fact marks the beginning of the organic involución that will continue inexorably until the death.

The suspension of the menstruation sometimes happens without premonitory signs, but more frequently he/she accompanies of diverse symptoms that constitute the clinical habitual box. The hypertension and the hot flashes, clerks of the circulatory apparatus, are the most attractive. At the beginning, at night the woman notes waves of heat especially, in the face, then these hot flashes become more frequent and they appear at any hour of the day. This symptomatology is accentuated in the cases in that injuries of the circulatory apparatus coexist.

As for the sexual appetite, he/she increases in the premenopausia, to leave extinguishing later on.

A predisposition appears to the artrosis that he/she comes favored by the impoverishment in calcium of the bones and drying of the meniscus and capsule articulares. The content in uric acid in the blood spreads also to increase. It becomes patent, in general, the trend to put on weight and in certain cases, it is met to a true lipomatosis.

In many cases, the not very accused symptomatology of the menopause doesn't demand treatment. When on the contrary, the manifestations of the climaterio are notorious, a medical treatment can be set up that leans on especially in the share of the estrogens that although they don't provide a briefer evolution of the phase climatérica, yes they allow a softer adaptation to the same one.

With the hormonal therapy, some women acquire a younger aspect. In and of itself, it is frequent that in occasions the recipe of hormones is not requested to merely prophylactical title of the dysfunctions of the menopause, and maybe with the hope of to recover the youth's charms and to retard the ageing. The clinical actual observations demonstrate that the rejuvenecimiento is only superficial, cutaneous texture and subjective well-being, continuing the aging process of the remainder of the organs and tissues of the organism.

The masculine climaterio is much less important that the feminine one and he/she appears more belatedly than in the woman, generally around the 60 years and it stops most of the men it lapses without a special symptomatology of accompaniment of its sexual declination. Shortcomings appear so much in the sexual plan that you/they become more and more frequent, with their habitual couple as, if it has been attempted, with other women.

Discounting that these sexual deficiencies are due to chronic intoxications; as tobacco plant, coffee, alcohol, etc; to old well-known illnesses or not for the patient; among other, it is necessary to appraise the state of presenescencia of the patient.

The treatment is based on improving the general state of the organism, with rest, relaxation, massage, climatic cures. Among the medicines the sedatives have been assayed, tranquilizers, the tonics as the fosforuro of calcium. The vitaminoterapia, especially the vitamins A, C, AND and complex B, seems quite beneficial and without hazard. The queen bee jelly of bees enjoys in certain sectors of great predicament.

10 Sexual Masculine Myths

10 sexual masculine myths

it is good to be informed of these things...

1. The masturbation affects
Throughout countless decades they have expanded concepts like that the masturbation can generate infertility, erectile dysfunction, acne, blindness, deafness, mongolism, madness, epilepsy, increment of body hair in the palms of the hands, "collapses" to the eyes and it removes them brilliance, it overworks to the muscles, it damages to the memory and the capacity of thinking, he/she degenerates tissues and ledges and, when it is abused, premature death.

Simply the fact of being crossed out of sin is enough so that many practitioners they feel impure and that its gentleman image is affected, although it is toward itself. The certain thing is that many sexólogos coincides in pointing out that the repression to which the minor that masturbates is subjected will generate later difficulties, so much in his sexual life as in other psychic features. For example, to make it undercover and with all hurry it is one of the antecedents of precocious ejaculation, understanding this as the persistent incompetence to obtain and to maintain the erection of the masculine organ that allows him/her to have sexual satisfactory relationships.

Now then, because in each orgasm the body releases endorphins (hormones that contribute to the relaxation) scientifically .comprobado., the masturbation is advisable to reduce stress and anxiety, and like help to reconcile the dream. Also, it offers the opportunity to know and to appraise the own body, what allows better autocontrol before the orgasm.

It is important to leave clear that when it is the only form of achieving sexual pleasure, or if it generates blame feelings and anxiety, it is recommended to go to the psychologist or psychiatrist.

2. A big penis only satisfies the woman
The most recent survey about sexuality that sponsors a signature of condoms points out that the women's 10% only gives importance to the size of its couple's member, and that the remaining percent is convinced that its sexual satisfaction doesn't depend on it; it is more, the same studio points out that 98% of the féminas says that a bigger penis to 20 centimeters scares them or it impresses.
In fact very few men are interested in knowing that the most sensitive field in the vagina is in the first two centimeters of the entry (vulva); so that a penis of 6 centimeters can hardly pass the 3 centimeters (on the average) of the lips vulvares and to arrive at the first two of the feminine organ with all comfort; now then, by means of friction, a virile wider member boosts these first centimeters.

Not we should forget that the vagina is composed by muscular tissues that contract when being boosted, and it is able to press and to adapt to the size average of the penis; equally, the clitoris (that it is considered the most sensitive point in the feminine genital), reacts directly to the tact, that makes them to enjoy this test as much as the same penetration.
Finally, for the interested parties in the topic can say that at world level the average of the size of the penis in state of flaccidity is 8.85 centimeters and erecto 16.4, with diameter of 4.1.

3. The vasectomy reduces the sexual appetite
Hundred of couples that you/they go for characteristic will to request this birth-control surgery have opened up in toto to enjoy their sexuality to the knowledge that they don't run pregnancy risk. The vasectomy consists on surgical plain intervention carried out by the urólogo .médico specialized in the male genital. that requires 20 minutes and the application of local anaesthesia on or about.

The objective is to impede the step of the spermatozoa, starting from petty incision in the scrotum (skin that recovers to the testicles) from among 1 and 2 centimeters, in the field where the deferential (tubes that transport semen) conduits are localized that are cut, it stops later on to tie the tips and to sew the scrotum again. Once concluded the operation, the patient can come out walking and to continue with her normal activities, since the procedure and the recovery period don't cause nuisances.

It is dummy to consider that during the vasectomy they will intersect important tissues in the operation of the virile organ, as some they believe, and that that it is the first step to develop erectile dysfunction, precocious ejaculation or some type of cancer, as that of prostate or testicles.

What we should highlight is that the production of spermatozoa is not waived with the vasectomy, so that after the surgical intervention great sperm count is stored in the seminal blisters, for what is necessary that the couple is protected with some birth-control method during the following ones 15 or 20 sexual encounters in those that the male ejaculates; after these the risk finishes.
Equally important it is to know that this method is not a shield against AIDS or other illnesses of sexual transmission, for what the submitted individual to the vasectomy should contemplate the accustomed diligences if it sustains risky relationships.

4. A virgin woman always bleeds in her first relationship
The hymen is an elastic membrane that skirts to the vaginal wall and it covers the entry of the organ, and during centuries it was thought that the only way to break it was by means of the virile member's penetration, which would cause pain and indent to the woman. Currently we know that he/she can book credit women that you/they are born without this fine tissue, or that can be torn by means of strong drop or some blow that it injures to the vulva, excessive menstrual flow, as well as during gynecological exploration, for masturbation with insertion of fingers or objects, when opening the legs violently during the practice of some sport .gimnasia, tennis, swimming, to mount bicycle or horse., and for genital caresses with too much pressure, among other.
Also, the Medicine has checked that there are women that have sexual relationships and they can conserve its entire hymen, because in occasions this ends up being so floppy that it remains without damage in spite of the coitus. It is so form it doesn't exist, even for a physician, of settling down with surety if a woman is virgin or not.
The same reasons for those that the hymen can be torn are those that justify the one that has not always bled during the first sexual relationship. Nevertheless, the absence of the vital liquid in the nuptial night continues causing conflicts among many couples.
5. Only to the book credit ejaculation there is pregnancy
In a natural way, the penis when putting on erecto segregates seminal liquid that prepares it for the penetration, which contains spermatozoa. It is so when entering the organ to the vagina it will even take sperms that can fecundate to the ovum in the woman's fertile days, without book credit ejaculation. It is so it indicated it is to use condom if one doesn't know the couple's menstrual cycle, or that she uses some birth-control other method; clear!, provided a pregnancy is not contemplated in the immediate future.
6. The circumcision should be mandatory
Although it is certain that the skin (prepuce) that covers to the head of the penis (glans) completes the feature of protecting it in the childhood of possible virus attacks that you/they derive in infections, and later on in illnesses of sexual transmission, there is not a consent among the medical experts that it should be retired definitively mediating the call circumcision.
Such it is the discrepancy in this respect that he/she is considered that in the men's United States 80% they are circumcised, while in Europe only 5%; the total at world level is calculated in 15%. The certain thing is that he/she has been proven that so much those intervened as who you/they have not been it are equally candidates to infectious or venereal illnesses if they don't save the due diligences.
The decision of practicing the circumcision in the minors relapses in the parents and the pediatrician, as long as adolescents and adults will be advised with the urólogo.
7. The medicines for erectile dysfunction are aphrodisiac
In recent years the popularity of the drugs has been increased for the treatment of erectile dysfunction, which only direct its share to the calls cavernous bodies of the penis, where they waive to an enzyme (fosfodiesterasa V) that disables to the erection mechanism, achieving as a result that this can stay for more time. Now then, the above-mentioned doesn't mean that the medical substance would cause the sexual desire frankly to who doesn't have it, since this it is developed in the brain and not in the virile organ.
The scientific test points out that if a male, thanks to the aforementioned medicines, improves his sexual feature altered by erection problems, it will also improve his sexual desire, although it is in form insinuation, elevating his self-esteem considerably.
8. Ejaculation is synonymous of orgasm
A very high percent of the males considers that the end of all intimate relationship is the coitus or penetration, through which you/they will obtain an orgasm that will generate them pleasure. Well, because several sexólogos has checked that the autocontrol in the respiration raises the intensity of an orgasm and it can extend it without there is ejaculation.
Who take to the practical the above-mentioned with more knowledge they are the followers of Tantra, millennial tenet coming from India whose goal is the individual's autoconocimiento. Of course that this very respectable discipline directs all its objective to the general well-being of the human being, where the sexual aspect is only a part of it.

Leaving of the premise that the human body is "a sacred" temple, the man tantrista he/she learns how to wait and to carry out the loving encounter without hurry, making special emphasis in the corporal relaxation and the control of the respiration, that is to say, desacelerar and to deepen the inhalation rhythm and exhalation consciously, that which has important impact in the control of the ejaculation. This way it can make slight movements, harmonic components and with pleasant rhythm, what drives to a sensual and prolonged relationship, making narrower the union among the couple.
9. The men don't have point G
From the decade of 60 in last century it was named point feminine G to a tissue residual that is formed from the embryo, localized in the front wall of the vagina, surrounded by nervous and sensitive completions. Their popularity from then on is due to that knowing it to boost this tissue enormous excitation that will be translated in having extended chain of orgasms in some cases can take place.
The best way to boost the aforementioned point is playing it or when having a deep penetration in the vagina, but from behind, making that the penis has bigger contact with the wall previous of the feminine organ.
Well, because in recent years one has spoken that the male also account with a point G, equally of extreme sensibility that can be boosted to unchain orgasms. In fact it is about the prostate, gland that completes biologic important feature, mainly in the reproductive stage, since it generates the seminal liquid that protects and it transports the spermatozoa in the path that these continue until the feminine uterus during the coitus (penetration).

The stimulation in the man equally can become by means of the tact through the anus, from where you can guide a finger through the front wall of its rectum, on or about 5 centimeters, until noting petty abultamiento in nut form, the point masculine G. As it can imagine, not all the males are willing to enjoy the test.
10. The sexuality extinguishes with the age
According to scientific investigations, the man reaches his sexual biggest vigor between the 30 and 35 years of age, spreading to decline later on. The explanation to the above-mentioned is that after that age they usually become present problems of health that will impact in the individual's sexual health, such it is the case of diabetes, hypertension and sufferings of the heart, among other. You look, for example, the high levels of glucose in blood (diabetes) alter the good operation of the circulatory system in general, of which the mechanism of erection of the reproductive masculine organ depends; it is so inattentions in the treatment of this illness they can cause erectile dysfunction. However, we should emphasize that the above-mentioned doesn't show up in all the men and that the sufferings that have been mentioned can be controlled and, in consequence, also the sexual dysfunctions that are derived of them.

On the other hand, the man that has taken a healthy life and it has maintained an active sexuality from their youth it assures that he/she will also have it during the old-age. It is true, the sexual capacity it diminishes in natural form with the step of the time, but he/she doesn't have reason to get lost completely.

In the male one can speak of decrease of the quality of the erection, as much in stiffness as in duration, as well as of the capacity to fecundate for the low capacity of spermatozoa; equally, is it necessary to highlight the period refractory post-coitus, that is to say, the time that takes him/her to recover for the following relationship, which can lengthen for days or weeks; for example, is it known about old men that have a relationship coital every three weeks to the 80 years, what he finds?

About the sexual myths thousands of more lines can be written and he/she would not finish speaking of them. Is the certain thing that when being informed we will be surprised nobody, we will be able to enjoy a sexual better health and more satisfactory couple's relationship, don't you create?

The Senses and the Sex

Smell
The senses that we possess (smell, visual, auditory, tactile and gustatory) they don't only act like half of contact with the exterior, but rather they play a very important paper in the seduction and in the sexual game, since the intensity of this activity and the strictly genital answer are conditioned by the use of the sensorial stimuli.
In this opportunity we will refer to the smell one. It is had more than enough well-known the fact that many scents act as exciting sexual. In spite of ésto, there is who sustain that the erotic action of the smell stimuli has suffered important modifications as for the human being it concerns. The genital scents seem to derive of substances of the group of the sour caprónico that in fact receives this name because it is the characteristic scent of the male cabrío in zeal.
They emit sexual scents especially those parts of the body provided in abundance of sebaceous glands and perspiration:
the hairy leather, the armpits, the genital, the feet, the year and the mouth. In most of people of our culture, this aromas have lost their meaning erotic, becoming habitual occasions and inhibitions until arriving to the limit of using for example, hygienic bathrooms and perfume, as means to neutralize them.
Now then, the same aromas with those that has been wanted to neutralize the human scent, also complete the function of replacing the erotic excitement of the genital scent and they are equally exciting, constituting an authentic one on the way to erotic. For example, from the old Arab until today, one of them is the essential oil of jasmine that one obtains in the night from this flower to conserve their exquisite aroma, it acts as relax and it grants serenity and pleasure. Also, it is not only to use perfumes afrodisiac to excite the couple, but also of using different mixtures of elements that contain aromas of this class in the sexual game, spilling them on the areas of more pleasure, to increase the seduction level.

Key gene in Feminine Orgasm

Partly, it is determined that the woman's orgasm is determined by its genes. It cannot be suggested that the blame is completely in cultural or other influences, according to a new study.
The experts in the topic suggest that that is possible that it will be interpreted like a news so much good as bad.
''Va to be annoying because some women will think that they maybe are not able to [to have an orgasm for genetic questions].
And on the other hand, it eliminates certain blame type '', the doctor commented Virginia Sadock, director of the program of human sexuality of the Medical Center of the University of New York.
In any way, the specialists of the topic suggest that the results of the studies don't mean that the women that inherit a problematic gene are before the possible lack of a good orgasm. Simply that one needs more patience and work.
The main benefit of discovering the genetic elements of the sexuality--as the experts comment--it is the one of being able to collaborate to the scientists to find the best treatments for the sexual problems. The new study was published behind weeks in Biology Letters, magazine that publishes the Real Society, the independent academy of sciences of Great Britain.
In the study, the scientists of the Hospital St. Thomas in London sent questionnaires to 4,037 women that are part of a registration of twins in England.
50% of these women was twin identical and the other 50 non identical%.
33% of the women indicated that never, or hardly ever, it had gotten an orgasm during the sexual act and 21% he/she said that it never achieved a climax in a masturbation.
Those figures are equivalent according to other studies carried out in the previous decades. But the questionnaires found a significant influence genetics in the capacity to arrive to the orgasm, the main investigator, Tim Spector said, expert in genetics of the Hospital St. Thomas.
The similarity in the experience of the orgasm was bigger in the identical twins than in those no identical, Spector said.
As the only difference among the two groups was genetic,
the scientists think that the difference among the groups was only the genetics.
After looking for other factors that could influence in the orgasm and they didn't find them, the scientists estimated that 34% of the difficulty that some women possess to arrive to the orgasm during the sexual act he/she is due to the genes.