Showing posts with label happy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label happy. Show all posts

2/19/2008

Healthy and happy children

Which are the alcoholatura good treatments that a boy needs to grow healthy and felíz?

Before anything else, we will make reference to the term "good treatments" used in the header. For many professionals that work exactly with children or mistreated people, ésto means that the children ean respected as legal persons anyone are your singularity. This involves to provide you cares physiques, power supply, health care, coat, among other; and taken care pscioafectivos, fondness unconditional respect of your person condition. You are also very important the or the educational contributions, so that they learn how to modulate your emotions, desires and behaviors to be respected themselves and your fellow men, including to all the alive other beings and the nature in general. Lastly, in the notion of good treatments the contributions should be included for a healthy and responsible socialization, that is to say that the children have the elements to build your personal histories or your identity, starting from the family, cultural and social reports surrendered in truthful and participatory conversations with the adults and pairs of your family, of your community and of your society.

To facilitate that the children have it doesn't only make aware of your histories of life but also of the reality that have played you to live, and so that they can commit with others in the change of this reality if you are unjust, violent and oppressive; you are completely fundamental a process of healthy socialization. This resides in assuring, as cmunidad, protection to the children in case your families, in the institutions or in the society they are confromtados to status of violence. the good treatments are mainly the result of a social production, not only family, but the effort that the whole community should make for the childhood.

During the period of gestation, as well as after the childbirth, the woman segregates a hormone: oxytocin that help to the attachment of your link with the baby, as well as the emotional protection that are also generated starting from her. Unfortunately, the effect of the oxytocin is influenced by the social and cultural contexts; and mainly, for the test of the mothers' life.

A mother with a childhood traumatized by bad treatments, for example, or that that your maternity lives downloads status of violence, in spite of the oxytocin, you will have difficulties in attaching to your son healthily, with the necessary empathy to assure you the good treatment that deserve. The men also have hormones, as the vasopresina that he/she explain the innate capacity to take care and to protect the children; but you seem to be that this hormone is terribly vulnerable to the ideological elements of the patriarchal culture that, with your beliefs and myths, you reduce the man to a condition of dominant, competitive and, many times, abusive and I force. Fortunately, little by little the ho, decent bres is involved more and more in the cares of your children and the emotions and the fondness lose fear.

You are certain indicators of a relationship of good treatments with the children. For example, mothers and parents that offer your children a safe attachment and they react with empathy in front of the lawsuits of satisfaction of your necessities, but at the same time they maintain the necessary authority to protect them and to educate them. another factor is when the demonstrations of affection and fondness live with pleasure; as well as when you move you to verify the efforts that he/she make the boy to advance in your development. When they are sensitive to your emotional sufriemiento and they know your son in toto, either in likes, interests, friends or customs. And, lastly, your children have a momentous importance in your lives, and for that reason soncapaces of respecting your differentiation processes, accompanying them in all the avatars of roundtrips that it enter the development process.

12/03/2007

Are the Men but Happy that the Women

The men, happier than the women
# According to a studio that was centered in studying how they felt each one from the sexes when carrying out different activities.
# What is a pleasure for some men, for them ends being a work.

To qualify and not to quantify data.

That was the terminus a quo of a studio that concludes that the men are happier than the women.

The investigators not only asked to men and women what they made day by day in its, but how they felt when making it. Of their answers curious conclusions are extracted.

To begin, as The relates New York Time, the women experience a similar grade of happiness when visiting their parents that when making the laundry. Why? For social mere network role. While for a man to visit their parents usually supposes that it can begin in the sofa to talk while he/she takes a beer, for a woman it usually supposes a 'extra' working in form of help to their general ledgers.

The curious thing is that, with the time, in spite of the gradual comparison of social network roles, the status has changed. At the beginning of the 70, the women were (according to their answers) happier than the men, although nowadays the things have changed (PDF), according to an investigation of Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers, of the University of Pennsylvania.

The papers are invested
Alan Krueger, an economist of Princeton, it has found answer to the question of why this is happening: from the decade of those '60, the men have gone aborting all activity that displeases them progressively.

To say it in another way, every time they work less and they relax themselves more. But I eat there is not studio without their figures, these they are the data: 40 years ago, a normal woman dedicated 23 hours per week in activities that displeased him/her, about 40 minutes more than any man. Nowadays the difference has increased to an hour and a half.

This explanation, according to David Leonhardt, fits with the sociologist's work Arlie Hochschild, in which argued that the women of nowadays they have two works: one in the office, the other one at home.