Showing posts with label conflicts. Show all posts
Showing posts with label conflicts. Show all posts

7/31/2008

What to do if your child makes fun of others

It may be that our son is not the victim of history, but he who mocks others.
If this is a persistent and unreasonable attitude, we should analyze what is happening in the family dynamics or investigate whether any conflict of his inner world could be driven to ensañamiento with others.

The jealousy on the birth of a brother, disagreements among parents, school failure ... anguish that may occur later channelled through a verbal aggressive attitude.
If necessary, we should consult a psychologist.

7/20/2008

How to improve the character at work

Most of your time what's happening in your work or business, and then, most of your time will not share with your family, but with your peers and superiors. Then, the work environment is not a marginal area, quite the contrary: this is an area vital to occupy the greatest time of your life.

Therefore, we offer these tips to make this space, a place with better quality of life.

At the outset, we must emphasize the development of relations based on mutual understanding.

For this, we must encourage comprehensive own attitudes, rather than waiting for the others. Whenever one gets what gives. This is called "emotional intelligence", the ability to establish good relations with others.

When you enter your place of work, no longer think of negative things that have nothing to do with your companions, but they have to do with your personal life. Many times, mixing those things does not work, creating unnecessary conflicts and unfair.

When someone else's area where work is in a bad mood for these reasons, tries to encourage and explain, in good way, that is not right to mix personal problems with people who have nothing to do, and that also will be much time with him, so it may help.

It tries to seek unity above all. In every sense, listening to and making other you listen. A union at work, without competition and teamwork, is essential for a good relationship. Never be proven that one is better or worse than another. Everyone works for the company and the same way.

If you feel you have a problem opposite reason, never uses violence to make others understand why the conclusion. One must always sit to talk without discussing, watching the pros and cons of the issue.

And above all, not only mark the mistakes of others, but always recognize their own mistakes.

Put into practice these tips and watch your life change in your work.

5/28/2008

The psychological weapon at work

The integration work, supposed to show and give the best of oneself at any time, both physically and psychologically. A challenge with certain rules.

The image to be transmitted in the workplace, is a compendium of skills, whose base is know to be in the right place at the right time.

The relationship with your boss, must be kept in mind the following points:

- To demonstrate a positive message.
- Companies, valued above all, emotional support and human qualities.
- Efforts should be made to solve problems, but without falling into a boast nor excessive confidence.
- The language used should always be clear and direct.
- In the apparatus of eye contact, posture and voice, trying to offer a trusting attitude.

With colleagues, you should take into account:

- It is important to create an atmosphere of harmony, enhancing empathy with others.
- It must incorporate all signs of cordiality in the relationship daily.
- A benevolent attitude will prevent conflicts.
- Competitiveness: we must do our best, without appropriating the success of others.
- Do not constantly seek the approval of others.
- Controlling emotions is vital to avoid unwise.

12/10/2007

To be released of the negative thing

We all know that throughout our lives we should face many problems of different nature. None knows the great mystery of the happiness, neither he/she has the solution so that in a to open up and to close of eyes the problems they disappear. Each who he/she should learn how to overcome them to their menare by means of the test and the incrementación of the spiritual energy through her. However a main rule exists to live in plenum happiness and power on taking the best problems: to "look at the full vessel and never the blank" vessel.

Frequently, we want to have a life without problems, without nuisance, without disillusions and with a lot of affection. It would be ideal to only live flanked of understanding, allowance, respect, and love for oneself and apart from this. But that world doesn't exist, and this world is full with conflicts to learn how to overcome them and to take out of them the respective teachings. Many times, you more and more difficult tornan those problems or status, to the point of transforming into status borders. And it is here when we believe that if we don't solve them soon we will no longer be able to revert this cumulative negatividad. It is like a black cloud that takes possession of our being, and that you exterioriza, be this way by means of the body like of the soul.

The only solution is to discover for ourselves the answer to leave this negatividad that is wrapping up and that it doesn't allow that we see the sunlight.

The first step is to be convinced that you can fight with the conflicts, to be willing to minimize its importance, that is to say, not to make of each problem the lead wire or the recursive topic of our life. It is also necessary to be willing to investigate and to see from out the status, with the goal that the objectivity allows to understand the problem and to find actual solutions. But mainly we should not accuse others for our difficulties. Just by accepting that we are responsible for what happens, we will be able to begin to dilute our problems.

Before the conflicts we should:
To work the car knowledge and to take conscience of the own lacks, attitudes and resolution potentials that we have before the drawbacks.
To be about improving, instead of to make problem or to point out the error to our fellow men. What we see in them is many our times errors and limitations.
Any status that affects us is an occasion to look toward our interior one and don't bind opportunity for the negative reaction.
It is not about deleting the negative feeling, but of elevating it. That is to say, of lighting a light amid a room to dark. She will guide us and this way, we will be able to find well the one in route to continuing to arrive to where we want to make it.